How do I figure out where I am going wrong?

[yyc]

I have been single for the past 6 years after being in my first relationship ever. Over the past couple of years I have been trying to find someone, but it seems no matter what I do I can’t seem to get anywhere with anyone. It is now getting to the point where I am starting to feel like I’m not what anyone wants because I have been turned down sooo many times. For the past two years I have mostly been focused on just getting someone to go out with me once, something simple like coffee, lunch. Often I just simply try to get a phone number or email address. I have a job that pretty much lets me do whatever I want whenever as long as the assigned tasks get completed, so this gives me a lot of time to go out and do anything. I have taken several courses, such as language courses (I’, scuba, rock climbing, sky diving… just to try and meet new people and have something in common to talk about when I meet them. When I do meet someone for the first time I try to keep the conversation light and fun. But every time I try to take it one step further I always get turned down. I am a very nice, caring, responsible person who has no addictions and is financially stable. I have tried several online dating sites and have even tried in person in 30 different countries. I am completely out of ideas on what I could do differently or what I might be doing wrong. It is exceptionally frustrating considering over the past two years I have been rejected hundreds of times for the simplest of dates. On rare occasions I get an email address, but when I write I never get a reply. On two occasions a woman agreed to meet with me, but stood me up. I’m just wondering what I could do to find out what I am doing wrong when I approach someone??? Any ideas????

[Trooper5]

Do you think that you are coming off as desperate? Are you unknowingly talking about your dating failures during these dates? You pointed out all your positives, give us the rest of the puzzle. What are your down sides?

[yyc]

Trooper - Thanks for the reply. I don't think I am coming off as desperate, at least I don't think I am. My biggest downside is I have no idea what to do with people, never have. It's almost like the whole social language is one I have yet to learn, but I am having a very hard time learning it because I just can't seem to find what works... As for the question am I talking about dating failures ' on one these dates'... no I have yet to actually get a date in the past 6 years... This is me just trying to get a date, but I keep getting turned down. No I never bring up past failures when I am trying to get a date/number/email, and if I did get a date I wouldn't for the first few dates assuming I make it that far.