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how do you deal with persistent fantasising ?


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hi

 

Im just wondering how people ( mostly men ?) deal with finding themselves continually sexually fantasasing about their ex ? I find i cant stop myself doing this and after i feel even worse. I try to remove their image and think of someone else, stop the fantasy of making love to them but i always end up giving into the tempatation when im self pleasuring. Highly frustrating. During the event i feel all the emotions and pleasure as strong as if it was i was still in the relationshop

I just cant stop myself doing this and it drives me mad and only leads to me continually reinforcing my regret and yearning.

Any good tips on what to do about this ?? Its driving me insane.

( currently without any partner)

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My answer: find a new porn boyfriend/girlfriend. Watch some stuff until you find someone you find very hot and then watch and rewatch that scene. Then, when you're... alone... focus on replaying that scene in your head, focusing on your hot new porn boyfriend/girlfriend. Works for me.

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i don't know how to help you really, i have no problem keeping my mind on other things when i'm awake, but i dream about being with him almost every night, and when i wake up, it usually takes me a minute or two to realise its not true, and it hits me like a ton of bricks. hurts like hell. i'm sorry you're going through it too.

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Almost only females responded ..lol haha

 

Yeah we women have a lot of fantasies too you know...i have them every morning i take a shower..

 

I have learned to accept them..drove me nuts before... I guess they are just a part of the love and attachement you still feel

 

When new experiences come...new fantasies will come.....

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Dream about your ex
Dream about your ex

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