bigheart09 Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 My relationship of 3 years is over. We broke up last night. I think I have known for a while that this was going to happen. I am really sad right now. I think the hardest part for me is going to be not talking to him about my day. Not hearing his voice before we both go to sleep and wake up in the morning. Missing the cuddling and the hanging out. I know in the long term this is for the best, but it doesnt make the hurt go away. Link to comment
arwen Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 I'm sorry girl. Breakups are very painful, even if you know somewhere deep down that they are for the best. Do you have friends to hang out with, someone near you to be with you for a girly evening on the couch? Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 Yeah ive been hanging with friends all day. He and I are still talking but I am afraid if we see each other we will just get back into our pattern again. We were together for 3 years and it just got kind of boring. It is his fault because he doesnt put any effort into the relationship. Link to comment
arwen Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 Yeah, maybe it's better to not see each other for a while- it can be so easy to just stay together because it's convenient. Do you know why he stopped making an effort? Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 who broke up with who? Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 It is a long story, but his life is pretty much a mess and he kind of just become an unhappy person. Now he is thinking if I am out of his life, he will be happy. He will never be happy in a relationship until he can fix himself. He has a history of ruining perfectly good relationships. I just thought this time would be different. I think it is better for me to move on to a healthier relationship. Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 who broke up with who? We both agreed it was best. I am a pretty emotional person so this is a lot harder for me than for him. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 We both agreed it was best. I am a pretty emotional person so this is a lot harder for me than for him. sorry hon...I hope you know that no matter what, this man will never be happy. Link to comment
arwen Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 ^^ I agree. And I also think that you will be much happier with someone who is more careful with your emotions- and invests in an emotional connection more than he did. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 Girl! I am so terribly sorry! My heart hurts for you. I know the pain you will be going through for awhile. You put your heart in this relationship and were as tolerant and patient as anyone I've ever known! And now this..... You hang in there! You are a beautiful woman with a big heart! I'll definitely check in later this evening. My thoughts are with you! Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 Thanks guys for your encouraging words. I have just put so much into this relationship over the past 3 years that I just cant believe it isnt going to work out. We talked about getting a house with a big yard and getting some more dogs and maybe having a little girl. It is not like I just made this all up in my head. He wanted to be with me as well. Link to comment
arwen Posted October 18, 2008 Share Posted October 18, 2008 We talked about getting a house with a big yard and getting some more dogs and maybe having a little girl. It is not like I just made this all up in my head. He wanted to be with me as well. But he didn't appreciate what he had, and you deserve someone who won't take you for granted. Link to comment
bigheart09 Posted October 18, 2008 Author Share Posted October 18, 2008 But he didn't appreciate what he had, and you deserve someone who won't take you for granted. Yeah i know that. it just sucks because i dont want to feel like i wasted 3 years of my life. I dont believe in regret. Link to comment
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