LittleInuit Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 So, yeah, my dad is legally blind, not totally blind, but legally blind, which means that it is hard for him to read and he can't drive. Well, me and my mom and my brother have offered to drive him to work. He has been out of work for about six years now. All he does anymore is feel sorry for himself and say all these things that he can't do. There are plenty of people that are worse off than him doing things. My paw paw is completely blind, and he still walks around the neighborhood everyday, and he does a lot at my church. My dad on the other hand does nothing but sit at home watching tv or on the computer. He says I don't spend enough time at home, so when I do, he has nothing to do with me. He doesn't even care that my mom has a full time job and a part time job and I have two part time jobs. He just thinks its good that we bring money in the house. Then, when we don't have any money, he yells at us about us spending it on ourselves. Let me tell you, I can't even remember the last time I bought myself something. I'm fed up with it. I have no social life because all i do is go to highschool and then work!!! He also makes a big deal if I don't clean the house right after I get home instead of doing my home work. I can barely handle school right now. Any ideas for me to get him to work? And where is a place that would hire a disabled person? Link to comment
redhearts Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Tell him it is hard enough being a teen who has to juggle school work and work to make money you don't spend on yourself. That cleaning the house is the least of your priorities. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Unfortunately as the child there is nothing you can do to FORCE a parent to do what they need to. Your mom is the one that has to talk to him about this. It sounds like he needs some therapy to get over his lack of eye sight. I am sorry you are in this position. Link to comment
LittleInuit Posted October 14, 2008 Author Share Posted October 14, 2008 I've tried and he just blows up on me saying how he can't do everything (which he does nothing) and then I ended up punished. And my mom has tried to talk to him, it hasn't worked. He just says something about him moving out then he leaves for a couple hours and comes back. We sent him to therapy for many reasons, and the psychologist actually kicked him out because he wouldn't do anything that she told him to do. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 Still as the child you are not going to be able to force him, that is between him and your mom. Can you go to therapy for how YOU feel about it? Link to comment
LittleInuit Posted October 14, 2008 Author Share Posted October 14, 2008 I want to haha but I don't have the time or the money. This is like my therapy. It makes me feel better. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 I am sorry hun, I know how you feel about having a hopeless parent, my dad is the same,I am an adult now thank goodness, but it was like that for me too. Are you at an age when you can leave home soon? Link to comment
LittleInuit Posted October 14, 2008 Author Share Posted October 14, 2008 I'm 17 so once I graduate I'm going off to college. I just don't want my mom to have to kill herself with work. She already works so much. But hopefully after I get out of college I'll be able to save some money for her. I just get tired of my dad telling everyone what they should do, and him do nothing. If it wasn't for my boyfriend I don't know where I would be, so I do have some support. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 I am glad you have some support. Unfortunately we can not save our parents from their own actions. I know really, my mom was the same. It is totally her choice what she does though. It does not stop us from worrying I know. You need to have your own life though, so go out and get it, and when you can do something nice for your mom. Link to comment
LittleInuit Posted October 14, 2008 Author Share Posted October 14, 2008 I will. Thanks for talking with me. The college I plan on attending is three hours away, so its close but not too close. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 I am sure you will be much happier there! Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 14, 2008 Share Posted October 14, 2008 when did your dad become legally blind? is this recent? sounds like he is angry over his condition. i know people who are 100% blind who work very difficult jobs, who exercise everyday, go to church, clean, etc.... I even have a blind friend who helped me move! he insisted on helping me move boxes, and he did an amazing job. anyways, i agree that your mom needs to talk to him. there is no reason your dad can't get a job either. Link to comment
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