jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Me and my bf cant have s*x on a regular basis due to the fact that he gets sore. and it looks like he is missing skin of his d*ck. he says that Im to t*ght and that the friction from intercourse gets him raw and sore. When we do have sex yes there is foreplay, it usually last betwen 15-20 min. but this started right after we started having sex. I suggested that maybe he is allergic to me. I have never had this problem with a guy and he has never had this problem with another girl. We have tried lubricant, condoms, but nothing really helps. we are down to every 4 days if I get lucky. I cant be mad cause it kinda painful to him but I feel rejected by him cause i try to be with him but he always turns me down. at this point im frustrated and dont know what to do. He says he doesnt need to go to the doctor but i dont think this is normal. any advise would help. -J Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Does he have any problems obtaining an erection? In other words...does he stay hard throughout the act, or does he have issues staying hard? Link to comment
redhearts Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 He needs to see a doctor if he looks like skin is missing. Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 no problems keeping it up at all. its not that he isnt in the mood, he wants it just as much as me but he gets to sore. Theres plenty of foreplay and interaction, he's a amazing lover but we cant be intimate a lot. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Go to a doctor. Is he circumsized? That could be a role in it too. Perhaps his foreskin isn't retracting all the way. Is it just with you? Has he had other problems? Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 yes he is circumsized- yes its only with me, no he doesnt have any other problems, no pain when urinating, no testicular problems, nothing! only getting sore. Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Does his entire body become sore? Or just his penis? Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Yea then he should definitely see a doctor. Link to comment
redhearts Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Have him use hypo allergenic soap. You do the same. Link to comment
lady00 Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 I think you should both go to the doctor and figure out what is going on. If he does not want to go, maybe the fact that you are going too and it's not all about him will make him feel more like going. Also, why can't you type out the word "penis." It's not a bad word and neither is "sex" LOL. Link to comment
redhearts Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Check this out: link removed link removed Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 Im not sore at all. only he is Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 those articles relate to men who are not circumsized Link to comment
miracle29 Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 (this is so random) but if his name is Shaylan run..he's full of it!) If his name is Not shaylan than i'd go with him to a doctor to check this out so you two can get past this. Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 could it be because I shave down there and the hairs could rub on him? I go with the hair not against it due to the fact that I get razor bumps Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 i want him to go to the doctor, but he believes that it because the friction gets hot due to the fact that he isnt a minute man and it usually does last 15-20 min. plus the fact that Im tight adds to the friction, and thus at certain angles I get tighter. He thinks the doctor is just going to say dont have sex as much and use a lot of lube, he thinks it will be a waste of time. No he isn't my first partner but I have never had a guy with this problem or have heard of any guy with this problem. Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 I feel like i am either going to just have to accept just having sex with him every 4 days or longer than that. or............. just wait and have it take a toll on are relationship and eventually lead to you know where "break up" I cant be mad do to the fact that its painful and sore to him, but I feel rejected and unwanted by him. He tells me thats not it but Im completely frustrated and have started stopping being intimate with him, less cuddling, kissing, or just being affectionate with him. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Okay from a man. It isn't that you are to tight! It could be your hair but it will not rub the skin off! If you have used plenty of lube and stay wet during then it is not likely to be friction. It sounds like he has an infection, rash or something going on and he needs to have it looked at right away. If he wore a condom how could it be friction unless it wore all the way threw. There is something else causing this. Ask him how often he masturbates. If he is doing it to often and has rough hands it will cause many of these symptoms (not that I have first hand knowledge). Sex should not be painful at all. A simple test would be for you to wait till you are wet and then wipe some of your fluids on his penis and see if it becomes red or irritated. If it does then maybe he has an allergic reaction to you but I doubt it. Good luck and see a doctor! lost Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 he says he doesnt masterbate and i live him, sleep next to him, I asked him if that could be a possibility and he said that wouldnt be it cause he doesnt do it. not sure if I should 100% believe it but we are very open and honest about that stuff. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 I can't believe he'd rather deal with this pain and deny you sex than just go to the doctor... Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 I feel like a guy in this relationship I want it all the time and dont get it. most guys beg there girls for sex or have to work at it to get anything. I am pratically begging him and willing to try anything. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 I feel like a guy in this relationship I want it all the time and dont get it. most guys beg there girls for sex or have to work at it to get anything. I am pratically begging him and willing to try anything. Is this the only problem in the relationship? Link to comment
jamiec3 Posted October 13, 2008 Author Share Posted October 13, 2008 I can't believe he'd rather deal with this pain and deny you sex than just go to the doctor... Im at the point now that maybe i just need to learn how to take care of my needs, due to the fact that i dont get it from him and i dont want to ask him anymore. the whole thought of pleasuring myself turns me off completely but hey i guess there a first for everything. Link to comment
miracle29 Posted October 13, 2008 Share Posted October 13, 2008 Im at the point now that maybe i just need to learn how to take care of my needs, due to the fact that i dont get it from him and i dont want to ask him anymore. the whole thought of pleasuring myself turns me off completely but hey i guess there a first for everything. Well I didn't want to say it, but I feel like I should. Maybe he is not for you. A man who can't satisfy you will cause you misery later. It wont get better..time makes it worse usually. I'd consider possibly finding someone who is willing to please you and not make you feel bad for their ultra sensitive peeeeeenis! Geez Lewinsky. Link to comment
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