John14087 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Hey again. So I talked with my older sister and we're going to a bar kinda thing. I was just wondering, what should I be looking for and what should I be careful for when looking for women to talk to? Link to comment
alakazam Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Personally, I think a bar is a bad place to go looking for women... Link to comment
kuiks8 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 i know some people have met dates at bars...i just don't think it's a good place to get a good impression of someone... Link to comment
redrose85 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Don't go expecting to meet anyone. I know that sounds awful, but when guys are so zeroed in on meeting a girl, it actually repels (most) of us. They give off a vibe that makes us generally want to avoid them. I'm not speaking for all girls of course. Link to comment
littlestar Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Bars arent the best places to meet people but having said that you will find decent and non decent people anywhere. The best advice i can offer is go with your gut feeling, its rarely wrong! Link to comment
John14087 Posted October 10, 2008 Author Share Posted October 10, 2008 to clarify, i'm really not going there to meet women, sure if I strike up a convo with a girl, its not like Im gonna turn her down. It's more of a practice run you might say. Link to comment
littlestar Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Ah dont fool yourself with the "practice run" its always during these times when u least expect it that u find someone Link to comment
John14087 Posted October 10, 2008 Author Share Posted October 10, 2008 alright how does "putting myself out there" sound more appropriate, dont you think? Link to comment
TENNFOLD1974 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Just be yourself and BS and whatever happens,happens.Bars are really not good places to find great people..but IMO it's a great place to find a piece(no pun intended) Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 did you just flava flav us with the title? lol just go with a focus on having a couple drinks and having a good time. that's how i always do it. i usually end up talking to girls. girls approach me, is it looks? maybe, but usually it's because me and my friends look like we are having a good time. it's attractive and sticks out more than the people looking all around looking to meet someone. have fun man!! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Well, it really depends on what kind of bar you are going to. But, what I respond best to is the following -Guys who I see and we lock eyes for a bit accross the room and then they smile A few minutes later (maybe a little bit more eying each other) they come over and ask if they can buy me a drink. Drink at the bar a little bit, then they ask for a dance. I prefer guys who have a smile about them. Only get 1 or 2 drinks tops in your system before hitting on a girl. Or else you are in danger of embarrassing yourself. Go for girls who are dressed down a little bit. Perhaps they seem out of place with how * * * * tily dressed all the other women are. Those are women that don't frequent bars but either their friends dragged them there in hopes of a good time, or something happened in their life that made them just want to do something out of character (that's usually how it goes for me....) Ask them what they do for a living, where they are from, mention you don't do bars much and your sister convinced you it was a good idea. Avoid politics, sarcasm, proding, and drunkedness. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 girls that dress down aren't necessarily the girls that don't frequent bars. you can't tell that from appearance. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 girls that dress down aren't necessarily the girls that don't frequent bars. you can't tell that from appearance. Yeah, but I think it's still a good rule of thumb to avoid the girls that try too hard. But, I've never tried to pick up a girl at a bar before. So, what do I know....lol Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Yeah, but I think it's still a good rule of thumb to avoid the girls that try too hard. But, I've never tried to pick up a girl at a bar before. So, what do I know....lol lol true true. hit on whoever you want OP. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 lol true true. hit on whoever you want OP. Also, I guess I should mention. Bars aren't the best place for getting to know people. Loud music, too many people...etc. Pick a few girls you think are pretty and get their numbers. That way you have a few options and then when you go on actual dates with them, you can see if they have a personality or not. Also, if you get rejected. So what? You have a few more cuties to check out. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Also, I guess I should mention. Bars aren't the best place for getting to know people. Loud music, too many people...etc. Pick a few girls you think are pretty and get their numbers. That way you have a few options and then when you go on actual dates with them, you can see if they have a personality or not. Also, if you get rejected. So what? You have a few more cuties to check out. loud music and too many people is why people go. least that is why i go. of course i don't like it too loud; but i love the sound of bottles clanking, people talking, music and people dancing on a little dance floor. the whole scene draws me in. there aren't going to be many people to choose from at the public library on a friday or saturday night. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 loud music and too many people is why people go. least that is why i go. of course i don't like it too loud; but i love the sound of bottles clanking, people talking, music and people dancing on a little dance floor. the whole scene draws me in. there aren't going to be many people to choose from at the public library on a friday or saturday night. Yeah, it's a good place to meet people but not a good place to get to know someone. The music just about makes it impossible to talk most of the time. And the scenery isn't the best for "get to know you" conversation. Nothing much beyond, "what do you do for a living'. Usually most of my convos end with "I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!" "WHAT?!" "I SAID THE MUSIC'S TOO"---song ends and everything gets soft---"LOUD!" looks around awkwardly.... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 Yeah, it's a good place to meet people but not a good place to get to know someone. The music just about makes it impossible to talk most of the time. And the scenery isn't the best for "get to know you" conversation. Nothing much beyond, "what do you do for a living'. Usually most of my convos end with "I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!" "WHAT?!" "I SAID THE MUSIC'S TOO"---song ends and everything gets soft---"LOUD!" looks around awkwardly.... it's not like that here. i can usually hear. the music never stops until the bars close as most places here have a dj. it's a great place to meet people here and get a quick conversation going and get a number. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 it's not like that here. i can usually hear. the music never stops until the bars close as most places here have a dj. it's a great place to meet people here and get a quick conversation going and get a number. The bars in this town are pretty obnoxious. It's a college town so I guess it is to be expected. The music is ridiculously loud and heavy gangster rap. Which is ironic because my school is not only full of white kids, but also absurdly rich white kids. I can appreciate that irony. Also, the drinks are expensive and I usually get shoved around a lot because I'm a petite girl. I rarely ever go unless friends drag me there. But, I usually have a fun time if I just say "what the heck. Party" I want to find a more laid back bar. With music but more background music and not thumping, everyone is going to be deaf tomorrow music. Where people actually sit at the bar. Perhaps something where people dress a little classier and there isn't a beer pong table in the middle of it all. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 The bars in this town are pretty obnoxious. It's a college town so I guess it is to be expected. The music is ridiculously loud and heavy gangster rap. Which is ironic because my school is not only full of white kids, but also absurdly rich white kids. I can appreciate that irony. Also, the drinks are expensive and I usually get shoved around a lot because I'm a petite girl. I rarely ever go unless friends drag me there. But, I usually have a fun time if I just say "what the heck. Party" I want to find a more laid back bar. With music but more background music and not thumping, everyone is going to be deaf tomorrow music. Where people actually sit at the bar. Perhaps something where people dress a little classier and there isn't a beer pong table in the middle of it all. college town here too sweetie. it's still a great place to be. well, i grew up in the town, so i guess i'm immune to it being annoying. unless i have a hangover from the night before. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted October 10, 2008 Share Posted October 10, 2008 dont go with the intent of looking for someone. just go and have fun with the people you are there with. 95 percent of women go to the bar knowing they can get free drinks off of the guys that are LOOKING for someone to meet. dont be that guy. just kick back, do your own thing, be loud and fun with the people you are with and it will attract others to want to join. if your up at the bar and you see someone attractive or interesting strike up a casual conversation. it could be about football or some events going on in your city or whatever pops to mind. just dont give a cheesy pick up line or offer to buy her a drink right off bat. be a bit of a challenge. Link to comment
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