a_lifters_life Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Her birthday is mid October, by that point we'll be 5 months together ... was thinking of getting her lingerie as one of a couple of presents for her bday .... is this too much ? Not financially, but like the time we've been going out ? Thanks Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Its entirely dependent on the two of you, her, and your relationship. At 5 months in my relationship, I wouldn't have been overly comfortable with something like that as the sexual side wasn't really all that developed. So, only you can decide if its appropriate for what your relationship is like, and how she would feel. Link to comment
chopperboy Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 It depends on how she would take it. In my opinion, a piece of lingere "for her" is really a present for YOU. But, if the other present is nice enough and truly for her, then it could be ok. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Something more meaningful, not materialistic. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Her birthday is mid October, by that point we'll be 5 months together ... was thinking of getting her lingerie as one of a couple of presents for her bday .... is this too much ? Not financially, but like the time we've been going out ? Thanks You also want something she wants, or will enjoy, not something that will make you happy, that you want her to wear because it'll make you happy. Although lingerie is a very nice present, but I think its more of a later time present. Unless you guys made love already and are very serious. Link to comment
PsychGirly Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Considering that it's her first birthday with you, you should probably start off with a gift that says "I love you", rather than "I wanna *% you". I think a simple necklace or bracelet, or something meaningful would do it. You should make it an "aww" moment she'll remember. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 I think this is cute if you guys were to move into together, LOL. link removed But for now.. link removed Link to comment
KAT MOMMY Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Why is it that a lingerie has to automatically mean SEX>? Most women including myself would be very happy to receive something like that on their B-day because it shows how much their/my man appreciates my body. I have had instances where nothing happened and the guy enjoyed the sight. I think it's totally up to you and the extent of the relationship. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Well if it was me, I'd more than appreciate lingerie ...it saves me buying it If she wears that kinda stuff, then why not... Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted September 24, 2008 Author Share Posted September 24, 2008 Lol hmm . Well Im thinking I would do a photo of the two of us on something like a mug or something or even just a nice framed pic of us for her desk would be fine. Along with either lingerie and something else or.... We're both really really serious about this. This IS her first serious rel., but IS NOT for me..... hm.... she really likes movies (buff) .... hm..... anyone ? Is lingerie too much ? She doesnt wear clothing like that on a daily basis, but I dont think she would mind wanting to wear it when shes with me , I just wonder if its too much... hm Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 I've only received lingerie on romantic type occasions..Valentine's and Anniversary..where the mood is romantic, and its going to be used most likely that evening. A birthday isn't exactly a romantic occasion..you can make it that, but why not save it for a romantic occasion? Or an occasion that is about "US" because thats the intention of lingerie..whereas a birthday is more about HER. Do you not know of anything she wants? Has she not said anything she wants or wants to do? Think. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted September 24, 2008 Author Share Posted September 24, 2008 I've only received lingerie on romantic type occasions..Valentine's and Anniversary..where the mood is romantic, and its going to be used most likely that evening. A birthday isn't exactly a romantic occasion..you can make it that, but why not save it for a romantic occasion? Do you not know of anything she wants? Has she not said anything she wants or wants to do? Think. I dono what to do, I guess your right it isnt really a "romantic" type holiday. I already got her a card back in August that just fits PERFECTLY. I just want to get her something. I mean she plays field hockey, but it ISNT by any means HER LIFE. She's just extremely outgoing, loves to have fun... maybe it shouldn't be something tangible persay, but rather like going somewhere together like a concert or I dono...... what do you think? is this not appropriate ? link removed Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Yea, thats cute. I personally use birthdays as a way to spoil my partner and make it all about him. Splurging on something he'd never buy himself, doing something secretive and without him knowing and suprsing him.. this past birthday I celebrated his birthday week...and did something for the 6 days leading upto his birthday. I just think birthdays are a time to be creative and fun and spoil the person. Save the mushy/romantic stuff for Valentines and Anniversary. But its your call. You know her best, you should know if she'd like lingerie, or what she'd like to do, or so, or go. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted September 24, 2008 Author Share Posted September 24, 2008 Yea, thats cute. I personally use birthdays as a way to spoil my partner and make it all about him. Splurging on something he'd never buy himself, doing something secretive and without him knowing and suprsing him.. this past birthday I celebrated his birthday week...and did something for the 6 days leading upto his birthday. I just think birthdays are a time to be creative and fun and spoil the person. Save the mushy/romantic stuff for Valentines and Anniversary. But its your call. You know her best, you should know if she'd like lingerie, or what she'd like to do, or so, or go. I think this is very true, I just wouldnt want to buy concert tix for 10/15 and then something comes up and the surprise is ruined and so is the gift. I think she would like something she can share a memory with me about, along with something like that picture frame above to remember in the future about that birthday. For in intangible "tickets" how do I go about making sure I can get her for that day ? How do I "mask" it ? Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Well when is her birthday? On 10/15 exactly as the concert? If not, if its prior...then tell her what you plan on doing. All my tickets for concerts or shows, circus, whatever were all given months in advance so I could plan it and we could make it happen. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted September 24, 2008 Author Share Posted September 24, 2008 Well when is her birthday? On 10/15 exactly as the concert? If not, if its prior...then tell her what you plan on doing. All my tickets for concerts or shows, circus, whatever were all given months in advance so I could plan it and we could make it happen. Its 10/15 .......... ugh goddamn i dono what to do lol We both go to the same college as you know....... hmm... Let me also add in ........ my birthday will mark our 6 month anni.. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Ask her if she has any plans for her birthday? Tell her that you have something planned and that she is to be with you. It adds excitment and anticipation and she gets to spend her brithday with you, but also seeing a band [i assume] she loves. Link to comment
a_lifters_life Posted September 24, 2008 Author Share Posted September 24, 2008 Ask her if she has any plans for her birthday? Tell her that you have something planned and that she is to be with you. It adds excitment and anticipation and she gets to spend her brithday with you, but also seeing a band [i assume] she loves. Well see the problem that messes this all up is at that point it will be close to her end of fhock season so she has games on 10/14 and 10/16 ........ and the 10/14 one is like 3 hours from here....... and her birthday is on 10/15... Link to comment
nightlady Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 i think dinner and a nice necklace or earrings and maybe a sexy panty Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 Well see the problem that messes this all up is at that point it will be close to her end of fhock season so she has games on 10/14 and 10/16 ........ and the 10/14 one is like 3 hours from here....... and her birthday is on 10/15... Well then its time to think of Plan B. Link to comment
fragmint Posted September 25, 2008 Share Posted September 25, 2008 you could always do something on her bday like a dinner and some small gifts, plus tickets for a concert show later in the year, that way she gets both, and has time to plan for the concert later on. oh and i think the lingerie idea would be really nice too. =) Link to comment
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