rapunzel Posted September 24, 2008 Share Posted September 24, 2008 This belongs in the Healing Forum but is related to my earlier post about "should I accept a group invitation from my ex?" Well...I just found out that my ex asked out another woman, someone who came to our show this past weekend who is friends with another guy in the band. He asked her to the show that he emailed our group about. They were chatting during our break. He even joined her and a friend on the dance floor briefly. I noticed him talking to her a lot but I tried not to think anything of it. Less than 3 weeks and he asks someone out who is FRIENDS with one of our colleagues. Two of my bandmates who know about this are disgusted and have lost all respect for him. The bandmate who is friends with this woman is going to warn her against going out with him. I have to say this hurts...very much...I don't have any details of WHEN he asked her to go to this show this weekend that I declined, or what. I declined via email at 10Pm last night and according to my colleague, it is very possible that he asked her BEFORE he even got my response. I cannot fathom he would do something so insensitive and even downright cruel, after telling me not even 3 weeks ago that he did not want us to be completely over. I'm sure I'll get more details. Part of me wants to think he just wanted a date for Friday when he found out I was not going but it's also possible he didn't even consider my feelings. I never would think that of him. He seems like a sensitive person. Or maybe he's trying to get a rise out of me as I've acted calm and collected when I'm around him. How else could I get through rehearsals and a show? Part of me thinks he is trying to create some drama. Well I guess I'll go back to healing and put any thoughts of reconciliation WAY out of my mind. I am SO tempted to call him and ask him what he was thinking. How he could do this to me, a colleague, someone he called a close friend, someone he spent a lot of time with and was intimate with for the past 3 months. Someone he thought was a wonderful, giving person. It seems unfathomable he would do something so hurtful. Link to comment
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