Declaration/Confession of Love?

[thefireisoutanyway]

Hello Everyone,

 

I always get great advices from this place. This is less of advice-seeking, but I thought I'd ask away anyway.

 

In my "culture", the transition from "plantonic" to "b/f & g/f" relationship happens when one side makes some kind of "confession." It's not like a proposal or anything, but basically, one side says, "I like you," or something.

 

Now, how does it work in real life? Is there some kind of an "event" that marks the birth of a new couple?

[Cognitive_Canine]

what culture are you from? Just curious.

 

Well, a lot of people do things in completely different ways.

 

However, we mostly play it by ear.

 

Some people usually have an "let's be exclusive" talk. Others just sort of assume it and it is so.

 

 

But, it usually starts when either a guy (normally the guy) or a girl asks the person they are interested out on a date. Usually starting with something simple like just to get coffee. But, people will go out to restaurants for first dates to. It really matters what you feel comfortable with.

[schaser]

Hello Everyone,

 

I always get great advices from this place. This is less of advice-seeking, but I thought I'd ask away anyway.

 

In my "culture", the transition from "plantonic" to "b/f & g/f" relationship happens when one side makes some kind of "confession." It's not like a proposal or anything, but basically, one side says, "I like you," or something.

 

Now, how does it work in real life? Is there some kind of an "event" that marks the birth of a new couple?

 

I think after a while just find a suitable setting to say you love him/her. Like a romantic dinner or something.

[ghost69]

i usually have 'the talk' and explain i would like things to be exclusive. but there were times where i just started introducing the girl as my gf and she was content with it and it just happened.

[thefireisoutanyway]

what culture are you from? Just curious.

 

I put " " around culture, because I honestly don't know how things actually work in reality even within my culture, which happens to be Korean.

 

This whole "culture" thing is based on anecdotes in blogs, pop-culture, and talk shows. I don't have any kind of first-account stories to work with.

 

My first g/f (if I could call it that) started with a "confession," so you can say I'm just clueless.

 

Well, a lot of people do things in completely different ways.

 

But, it usually starts when either a guy (normally the guy) or a girl asks the person they are interested out on a date. Usually starting with something simple like just to get coffee. But, people will go out to restaurants for first dates to. It really matters what you feel comfortable with.

 

What makes something a "date" as opposed to just going to get a cup of coffee? I mean, I've met with female friends to hang out and stuff, but that doesn't make it a date, right?

 

I think after a while just find a suitable setting to say you love him/her. Like a romantic dinner or something.

 

Okay, that sounds pretty close to the 'confession' thing. Though I was under the impression that using the word "love" was a big no-no in this country, unless you are about to get engaged or something?

 

i usually have 'the talk' and explain i would like things to be exclusive. but there were times where i just started introducing the girl as my gf and she was content with it and it just happened.

 

I see. In the latter situation you described here, when would you celebrate your "anniversary"? (If you do such a thing, that is.)

[drewciouS281]

IMO its either a mutual decision or one of the individuals will speak up. for me i jsut look at signs like gestures, comments, the amount of time the person wants to see or talk to me and go from there. I rarely am the one to say "lets take it to the next level".

[ghost69]

I see. In the latter situation you described here, when would you celebrate your "anniversary"? (If you do such a thing, that is.)

 

we would figure that out together. i had a gf that we celebrated every month. but we were young. but usually each year since the exclusive talk unless you agree on a date you started dating.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Me and my bf never really had the exclusive talk. But, we talked about what day our anniversary should be after about 8 months of dating, we decided on our first date.

 

Like I said before, just play it by ear.