Anger and Sadness

[lil_mamarains13]

I have become a very angry person since I found out that this girl is back in town. Well this little tramp dated the guy I am with now, and cheated on him with 6 different guys. She also slept with the guy I was dating a long time ago, and then she went around acting like she was my best friend and things like that.

 

Well she moved away out of state, and I found out she is back in town. I just want to find her, and whoop her *beep*. I talked to my bf last night about it, and he said I need to just leave it alone, and forget about it.

 

My bf, and I talked for a long time last night, and I found out he is not very happy. He is not sure what is wrong, but I can tell he is sad. I feel bad, and just wish I could cheer him up. When he is sad it makes me sad, and I know how the story goes. I just don't know what to do anymore. I love him, and I want him to be happy.

 

Do I need to just listen and be there for him as much as I can until he cheers up, and he starts having better luck? I want to help him, but I don't want him to feel smothered by me. Does anyone have any suggestions?

[bleeder]

lil_mamarains13 Carrying that anger with you is not wise. Anger is a baggage, an emotional burden which eats into you slowly. You would not want to spend your days as such, yes? So learn to let go of those thoughts. You can live your life to the fullest without being agitated by the ghost of her.

 

You would have to speak to your boyfriend on what's bothering him. Ask him nicely. Do not be too pushy if he does not want to share. Just let him know that you are there for him, when the time is right, he will speak to you.

 

Hope that I have helped.

[vfunkera]

hey lil_mamarains,

 

This girl has had her fun, and is no longer part of your life and hopefully won't intrude in your relationship either. Don't go round for her and kick her down or break her nose ( ); leave her and if she decides to get stuck in with you and your man, then its time to have some words. Otherwise as bleeder said, get rid of this anger and put the past in the past and learn it.

 

Your boyfriend is not happy, and you want to make him happy, so for a start i would start listening to him and forget the girl. Secondly i would ask him whats wrong and why. He says he doesnt know, but how can that be possible? It doesn't make sense to me. He should open up to you if not then, then when he feels the time is right. Just be there for him, and show him you love him.

 

Good luck, and smile

[lil_mamarains13]

Thank you for your replies. I know this girl is looking for my bf, and I am kind of glad he is living with his mom which is 2-1/2 hours away even though I wish he were here with me. I just hope between the 2 jobs I don't have any run ins with her because I will probably say something to her.

 

I understand where you are coming from though and I am not going to go look for her to beat her down or anything, but if she crosses me while she is here I won't think twice about doing it.

 

My bf is down because he isn't working, and doesn't know what he wants in life. I don't know what to do about that except just be there for him when he needs me. Well thanks again for your replies.

[QTpie87]

yeah,

i know what you mean about the whole cheering the bf thing up. you see while me and my ex where going out our best friend died and i was really really not okay but neither was he so i tried to act semi okay and i stayed there with him. well he always told me how thankful he was that i was there with him, but now he says that he really wanted me to leave him alone. i don't know what the truth is... probably he just said that to me because he was mad when he said it. but i would ask your bf what you can do to him. tell him you love him and how much he means to you and let him know that you are there for him. well i hope i helped. oh yeah and about that ho just ignore her. i know that will be hard to do but i have to ignore my ex's ho'esh sister everyday. well i hope i helped you.

love Qtpie87