dreams123 Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 If anyone knows what those are (because I'm not really sure but I saw some & completely disgusted me).... would you consider them cheating or is it acceptable? It has happen on several occasions... Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Completely UNACCEPTABLE. Dump the jerk. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 It absolutely is cheating. My exhusband did this on several porn sites. He ended up meeting woman in real life for sex. It destroyed our marriage. Why would you think that this is NOT cheating? Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 completely unacceptable. if he is not cheating, he is planning to. dtmfa!!! (dump the mf already!) Link to comment
Jelina Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 It's gross and dangerous. Run fast!!! Before he gives you an STD. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 completely unacceptable. if he is not cheating, he is planning to. dtmfa!!! (dump the mf already!) well put!...... Link to comment
metrogirl Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 There is only one reason why a guy would seek out an escort and I can tell you it's not because he wants to take her to the theater. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 There is only one reason why a guy would seek out an escort and I can tell you it's not because he wants to take her to the theater. .............. ROFLMAO......well said! Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Step 1. DUMP HIM. Step 2. Get tested. Step 3. Be thankful Link to comment
metrogirl Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I'm just wondering, how did you find out? Link to comment
Hope75 Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Yep, it's cheating and it's putting your health at risk and it's time to leave this guy before you contract an uncurable STI. Get tested ASAP. I'm sorry this happened to you. Link to comment
dreams123 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 hello! Thanks for your honest responses everyone! I'm not sure because sometimes I just don't know...whats okay' and whats not. Other than dumping him (because that is to the extreme & he is a good man despite this issue); is there any other possible solutions/advices are welcomed? I semi-confronted him, just mentioning those pages he looked at... (and since many guys are so good at the "denial" attiude); he just said "it wasn't me looking". But prior to this confronting, I asked him did his friends come over to his place & his answer was no one came. So...in my mind I was thinking, if it wasn't me, and your the only one using the computer, who else? Link to comment
dreams123 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 I'm just wondering, how did you find out? I occasionally check his internet explorer history (invasion of his privacy? I don't know)...but thats how I found out. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Okay, so you want to stay with someone who is not interested in you, who is interested in sleeping around? Then you may catch an STD maybe even one that is not curable and then what will you say? Despite that hes still good? Link to comment
metrogirl Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I occasionally check his internet explorer history (invasion of his privacy? I don't know)...but thats how I found out. So he was looking at the ads or did you find an ad that he has..... I'm sure there are a lot of people that look at the ads out of curiosity......I'm guilty of that myself and I'm certainly not looking to hook up with anyone. Sometimes, I like to scan the ads because they are soo freaking cheesy and I need a good laugh. What exactly did you see? Link to comment
dreams123 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Share Posted September 23, 2008 Okay, so you want to stay with someone who is not interested in you, who is interested in sleeping around? Then you may catch an STD maybe even one that is not curable and then what will you say? Despite that hes still good? Hi redhearts, yes I think I will go get checked asap. I just wonder... is it possible maybe he just looked & did not act on it? Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Hi redhearts, yes I think I will go get checked asap. I just wonder... is it possible maybe he just looked & did not act on it? Say you were looking at it, what would be your excuse? If hes in a happy relationship then he has NO reason to look. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I occasionally check his internet explorer history (invasion of his privacy? I don't know)...but thats how I found out. that's how they all get caught.......*shakes head* Link to comment
rosephase Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I have looked at those ads on craigslist. I was interested; I've looked a couple of times. I'm a girl and don't have any interest in paying money for sex, but if you looked at my history it might seem that way. If he is seeing these women I agree with everyone else, but I feel like just looking at ads doesn't mean he is cheating on you, it might be like porn for him. Just a thought. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 hello! Thanks for your honest responses everyone! I'm not sure because sometimes I just don't know...whats okay' and whats not. Other than dumping him (because that is to the extreme & he is a good man despite this issue); is there any other possible solutions/advices are welcomed? I semi-confronted him, just mentioning those pages he looked at... (and since many guys are so good at the "denial" attiude); he just said "it wasn't me looking". But prior to this confronting, I asked him did his friends come over to his place & his answer was no one came. So...in my mind I was thinking, if it wasn't me, and your the only one using the computer, who else? Listen...in the face of PROOF my husband denied it too. Turns out not only was he looking, but he was hooking up with women. I am in agreement with all the others. Get rid of this guy, or at the VERY LEAST, STOP sleeping with him and get yourself an HIV and STD test ASAP. Your LIFE is at risk here. He's jeoprodizing your health and you still can call him a good guy? Do you see a problem here hon? Link to comment
Lamprey Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 He may have been browsing and not calling, kind of like looking at porn. But if he hasn't used escorts in the past and wasn't planning on it in the future, why look to begin with? I'd be worried. Link to comment
HealingHandsWarmHeart Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 i've browsed that stuff- not with the intention of hiring someone ...but because i'm amazed that that stuff exists! lol Advising someone to leave their relationship based on our own past experience isn't giving anyone a fair shot. Let's first find out if the dude had an actual ad up .. or he was just browsing- if he was just browsing - well then she should keep an eye out and see what happens...but it could all be perfectly innocent.. you never know. Then again it could be exactly what everyone thinks.. if that is the case ... run to the nearest exit. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 I wouldn't think you should give someone the benefit of doubt here. If your in a happy loving relationship there is no need to look at that unless you want something out of that. Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 The fact that he DENIED IT IS A RED FLAG! Link to comment
girl68 Posted September 23, 2008 Share Posted September 23, 2008 Well my bf looks at link removed he doesn't have an account; and I asked him point black if he chats or send messages he said no. But he never denied looking though. I trust him and do honestly believe he is just looking (like porn). I don't like he looks at that site specifically but, I'm sure he's not cheating. Your case is different he's denying it completely. I would confront him and get him to fess up exactly why he's browsing THAT stuff... Yes, you're snooping, yes it's wrong- but if you have suspicion I'd rather be wrong and find out then be "right" and never know. Link to comment
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