What is a "break"?

[Seymore]

And what are the rules? Can each person date someone else during a break? Is there to be no contact?

[agent1607307371]

What did you and your g/bf decide?

 

If you haven't agreed to any rules, then technically I wouldn't think there are any.

 

That said, breaks are not a good sign. Do you want to hang around moping?

[D_Lish]

Well if someone decided to take a 'break' from me....then yes, I'd see other people....why not? Sure wouldn't hang around awaiting on someone, who wasn't sure if they wanted to be with me, or not...

[denise_14]

for me, when you and your partner broke up, then you're both single again, technically speaking.

[kaoticbaby]

that is something you have to decide with your partner. none of us will know what's going through their head!

[Dragunov-21]

When you take a break there's typically NC until you're both ready to talk, that can vary from couple to couple.

 

There's a difference between breaking it off (breaking up) and taking some time to reevaluate (I'm talking like a week, or two, max here).

 

Personally I would consider it cheating if I or my gf got with someone else if we hadn't said to one another "it's over", but that's just one man's view on the subject...

 

 

When it comes down to it, all that matters is your interpretation, and your partner's, and those are things only you can know.

 

It all depends on whether you want to get back with this girl or not - if you get with someone else in the meantime, you can pretty much write that off.

[ycmanvs]

You need to set the rules before the break.

[Tshwane]

a break is normally a break up. So yes your free to see other people.

[Seymore]

I asked her what the rules were, and she said "Rules?". I asked if we can see other people, since I've never taken a break, so I'm not sure what it means. She said no, like it was silly - we were still together, just taking some time off. She just said we need to have our own time for a while, we can talk and all that, just not go out together for a few days and re-evaluate our relationship. She said she still loves me, but just isn't sure that we are what she'd thought we were. I want to stay with her, but she seems confused. One day she's talking about marriage and children, then we fight and it's this the next day.

[Dragunov-21]

I asked her what the rules were, and she said "Rules?". I asked if we can see other people, since I've never taken a break, so I'm not sure what it means. She said no, like it was silly - we were still together, just taking some time off. She just said we need to have our own time for a while, we can talk and all that, just not go out together for a few days and re-evaluate our relationship. She said she still loves me, but just isn't sure that we are what she'd thought we were. I want to stay with her, but she seems confused. One day she's talking about marriage and children, then we fight and it's this the next day.

 

It happens.

 

If it gets to be a regular event, you may want to 1. Have a serious mature talk, and 2. Think about whether the relationship's sustainable.

 

Just out of interest, how old are you guys?

 

In the mean time, I think you have you answer right there, others are firmly off limits.

 

In advice to others "taking a break", unless god herself flies down from the heavens and asks to to go clubbing with her, if you don't know the rules, err on the side of caution and assume you're just taking a little personal time.

 

I think the language varies with geography, for instance, in Australia, taking a break doesn't usually mean breaking up, it just means stepping back a little and reevaluating.

 

Hope this has helped a little.

[ycmanvs]

It sounds more like she needs space than a break. Sometimes having time to miss you, will bring you closer. Other times it makes you drift apart. Good luck. Let her come to you.

[Seymore]

It happens.

 

If it gets to be a regular event, you may want to 1. Have a serious mature talk, and 2. Think about whether the relationship's sustainable.

 

Just out of interest, how old are you guys?

 

In the mean time, I think you have you answer right there, others are firmly off limits.

 

In advice to others "taking a break", unless god herself flies down from the heavens and asks to to go clubbing with her, if you don't know the rules, err on the side of caution and assume you're just taking a little personal time.

 

I think the language varies with geography, for instance, in Australia, taking a break doesn't usually mean breaking up, it just means stepping back a little and reevaluating.

 

Hope this has helped a little.

 

Thanks. I'm 29, she's 23. We've been arguing over mostly petty things more regularly, and she's of the mentality that it's useless to keep having these heart-to-hearts when things aren't changing, but the problem lies more on her end than mine. I want it to work, and I know deep down she won't leave me because I'm the best thing that ever happened to her (according to her, and according to me, even though I have low self-esteem - I do my best and people around tell me I'm so good to her)