insofar Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 Hi folks. As I mentioned over here, I'm thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me. A short summary of our relationship. I'm in London, Ontario, she's in Pennsylvania (used to be in Ohio but got a new job very recently). I started talking to her in January of last year, when I posted a comment on her blog on OkCupid (and things just started moving from there). I never intended to get into another long distance relationship, but I'm sure most of the people here know how love tends to happen when you least expect it. We finally met in August of last year, when I came over for five days about two weeks before I went back to school (as I'm a student at the university here). I came back after those five days, and returned to her for another five days two days after I came back, because we figured "why not". Since then, I've been able to visit her in Ohio several times (I think probably about seven or eight, I'll get into more detail in a second) and she's been able to come up to visit me here on weekends about monthly (we're limited since she's working full time and I'm a full time student). That went on while I was in school, and we fell for each other more pretty much every time we met. I've met just about all her friends and family; unfortunately she hasn't had as much of a chance to meet mine (though she's met the important ones). This summer was awesome. Once I got out of school I was able to visit her for longer periods, going about three weeks at a time and coming back to London only so I could move to another apartment and such. In the back of my mind when I was visiting before, I always wanted to know how we'd live together; the summer visits have pretty much answered that for me (and the answer is really well). Now I'm back in school, so we're back to the monthly visits until Christmas, when I'll be able to come down and visit her for at least a week. I'm thinking of asking her to marry me during my Christmas visit. We've been talking about our wedding a fair bit recently because we're both so sure, but we don't want to rush things (and in the back of my mind, I have been thinking about the whole "honeymoon period" deal and whether we're still in it, but we have known each other for about two years now). So now, I'm considering methods of asking her. I've never really considered a public proposal before, but an idea is growing on me. There is a bar where she and a lot of her friends used to get together, play pool, and sing kareoke. I'm considering talking to some of her friends in secret and getting them to organize a "Nike night", since she'll be in the area anyway. I'd then get them to play a romantic song yet to be determined and I'd come out of nowhere and sing to her, then propose. Remember, at this point she'd be thinking I was in London. As I said, I hadn't really ever considered a public proposal before, but I think it's a bit different here in that we both know we want to get married (even her mom is referring to me as her future husband at this point). So these are my questions: Do you think this is too public or a bad venue / idea? Do you think it's too soon? Any other ideas? PS: I won't be giving up my schooling to be with her; the idea is that I'd take a year off in order to get my K-1 fiance visa and then apply as a transfer student to a local university when I had my green card, so I'd get the resident rates instead of the ludicrous international rates. Link to comment
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