Contact with ex

[wheezy84]

Its been a year since I last spoke to my ex, and we finally started talking on MSN again.I was very hesitant at first, but we warmed up to chatting everyday. He then asked me out for dinner, just as friends, but I gave all sorts of excuses. Today I told that to be honest - I couldn't trust myself, and since I knew that his plans were to go overseas to work in the coming years (even though I just came from from overseas to start work) - that I couldn't get too attached to him and couldn't go out with him - in case I fall in love with him again - to avoid myself getting hurt again.

 

Do you guys think this is stupid for me to say? Like to be so honest? I feel like a loser now, after getting a little attached to him again and then hearing him say that his plans were to go overseas to get really successful in his work etc..

I feel stupid for telling him how I really felt as well.

 

I don't know how to regain anymore confidence, but I suspect I should try to stop talking to him again. I don't feel I love him, but the wanting for him to want be back is quite strong. Sigh! But this has happened before, and I took him back in the end 2 years ago. I sure I don't want to make this same mistake again, but I fear I am too weak if this continues. Any thoughts?? Did I sound really stupid telling him the 'honest truth'? Thanks for any thoughts..

[Zeitgeist]

Who broke up with whom? And what was the break-up due to?

 

Is it a possibility that he's testing the waters to see if there is a possibility with you because he doesn't know for sure that he wants to go overseas?

[Andy_2007]

Today I told that to be honest - I couldn't trust myself, and since I knew that his plans were to go overseas to work in the coming years (even though I just came from from overseas to start work) - that I couldn't get too attached to him and couldn't go out with him - in case I fall in love with him again - to avoid myself getting hurt again.

 

Perfect.

 

You were honest and let him know how you feel.

 

If he is wanting any kind of reconciliation he knows now where you stand and he'll have to change his plans if you're important enough to him.

[Band_Nerd]

I think it was a good idea that you told him the honest truth. He should know it.

[wheezy84]

thanks for d reassurance guys. i think it was the right thing to do too. it just felt stupid because he was just asking me out as a 'friend'. although he did seem pretty pushy. my friends thought that he might've just asked me out in case he might get 'lucky' that night, if you know what i mean. so, feeling stupid was due to all of that. but oh well, i guess it's always good to be honest in saying how you feel.