emeraldina Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 I hope this is the right place to post this question.. this is sort of a survey, I want to know how many of you guys would consider converting to another religion to be with someone you fell in love with.. if it is very important to that person that you be in the same religious group as them.. I have always been convinced in my mind that it's not easy .. but I have a couple of friends who ended up dating then marrying guys who weren't from their religion originally but who ended up learning about it and then converting before proposing .. so how common do you think this is and why or why not would you (or not) do that? Link to comment
Helena2011 Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 i wouldn't because there are alot of couples out there that go to different churches because they are different reigions and if he can't accept the fact that you are a different religion then he may not be the one! Link to comment
fragmint Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 i guess it also depends on how devoted you are to your OWN belief before it all too. if i felt my religion was really important too, i probably would not even think to consider another religion. edit: forgot to answer for myself lol i most likely would not be converted into another religion. it seems too hard to me. eventhough i am not very religious, i still have my own beliefs and no matter what i learn about other religions, it all seems like a big fairy tale to me - i just dont buy it. Link to comment
doyathink Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 Would you consider converting? If not, then you can't expect him to. I wouldn't. But...why would I have certain beliefs if it were that easy to change them to something else. If you're not faithful in what you believe, and would change it to fit someone elses...then why practice it to begin with. Link to comment
emeraldina Posted September 21, 2008 Author Share Posted September 21, 2008 Would you consider converting? If not, then you can't expect him to. I wouldn't. But...why would I have certain beliefs if it were that easy to change them to something else. If you're not faithful in what you believe, and would change it to fit someone elses...then why practice it to begin with. no I wouldn't ad I totaly agree with you.. and that's why I have always thought to myself that there's no reason I should start anything (other than friendship) with someone who doesn't have the same believes as me.. but seeing some people who have done it and are now living happily.. it makes you wonder.. plus it's not always easy.. I can't always control who I'm attracted to.. Link to comment
doyathink Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 no I wouldn't ad I totaly agree with you.. and that's why I have always thought to myself that there's no reason I should start anything (other than friendship) with someone who doesn't have the same believes as me.. but seeing some people who have done it and are now living happily.. it makes you wonder.. plus it's not always easy.. I can't always control who I'm attracted to.. I know. I married a man who said he was a Christian. Yeah right! I said...if you think just believing there is a God makes you a Christian, then I guess satan is a Christian too. He KNOWS there is a God. If it means that much to you, then you'd be better off dating a man who believes the way you do. Some ppl will change their minds, but you can't expect them to unfortunately. lol Link to comment
Nixee Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 For me this depends on what sort of beliefs/religion we are talking about. There is a vast difference between someone who is atheist or agnostic becoming christian.... or someone who is christian already becoming say... catholic. Or perhaps someone who is of a christian based faith becoming buddhist... etc. etc. It is all case by case I guess. I don't imagine I could truly fall in love with someone if their core values and beliefs did not flow with my own in some way though, so I imagine some compromise would be reached. But honestly... the idea of converting for someone at this point in time.. it turns me off. Link to comment
emeraldina Posted September 21, 2008 Author Share Posted September 21, 2008 For me this depends on what sort of beliefs/religion we are talking about. There is a vast difference between someone who is atheist or agnostic becoming christian.... or someone who is christian already becoming say... catholic. Or perhaps someone who is of a christian based faith becoming buddhist... etc. etc. It is all case by case I guess. I don't imagine I could truly fall in love with someone if their core values and beliefs did not flow with my own in some way though, so I imagine some compromise would be reached. But honestly... the idea of converting for someone at this point in time.. it turns me off. the two cases I know of... the guys were christians and the girls of completely dif faiths .. one was muslim, the other buddhist .. I know of many cases where the girl converted to islam to marry the guy .. those people I know are in europe.. so that might be different in america.. it would be great if I could just concentrate on guys who believe like me .. but there aren't many of them where I live .. that's why I wonder Link to comment
Stardusk Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 I hope this is the right place to post this question.. this is sort of a survey, I want to know how many of you guys would consider converting to another religion to be with someone you fell in love with.. if it is very important to that person that you be in the same religious group as them.. I have always been convinced in my mind that it's not easy .. but I have a couple of friends who ended up dating then marrying guys who weren't from their religion originally but who ended up learning about it and then converting before proposing .. so how common do you think this is and why or why not would you (or not) do that? I would never, simply because I can't stand religion and would never be involved with someone who is religious. Link to comment
doyathink Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 I would never, simply because I can't stand religion and would never be involved with someone who is religious. I'm 'religious' and you talk to me. lol Link to comment
emeraldina Posted September 21, 2008 Author Share Posted September 21, 2008 No, I would not. can you answer the second part of the question... why not? Link to comment
Alezia Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 I wouldn't. If the person can't accept me for my faith and we can't reach some kind of compromise ex: marry civilly instead of religiously or having a marriage of both faiths, then they aren't really in love with me. Link to comment
Rose21 Posted September 22, 2008 Share Posted September 22, 2008 Um I'm not VERY religious but if I truly was with THE one, I don't think they would want me to change my religion anyways. They would accept me for me. I'm with the one now, and he has never preassured me in anyway. I dont go to church much, and I had to be DRAGGED to church by my mom for easter, and even though he's kind of the same way with me (we know there is a God we just have alot of questions) He still came with me. I wasn't trying to force religion down his throat. Anybody that loves someone, wouldnt do that. Link to comment
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