LAYAAN Posted September 21, 2008 Share Posted September 21, 2008 Hello all, Sorry for the long post but I need some help. I've posted about this man sometime around June/July. (Now, you'll say ... what still no progress? Ya, still no progress) This guy initiated contact on a dating site. This is the story so far. he called n talked the first time ---> no calls for a month ---> called back "I was in a diff country" started calling regularly ---> no calls for a month ---> called back said "there was a robbery in my house, my car was stolen, blah, blah" ---> started calling regularly ---> no calls for a month ---> "I moved to another state" (he gave me the name) I was busy with that. Rented my apartment out, blah, blah." ---> asked me if we could meet, so I shared certain things from my side that previously were deal breakers for many men. I clearly said "You can take your time to think and if you feel like going ahead, you give me a call"---> no calls for 3 weeks ---> called back n said "have you decided not to call me unless I call you?" we talked ---> now its been 2 weeks and no calls. meanwhile when there was a fire around this area, he called to check up on me. One time, he called and I couldn't talk properly b'coz I just really wanted to shout n scream at him he thought I wasn't well n emailed saying "you got me worried. is everything okay?"... are these small gestures to keep me from slipping off the hook while he awaits a bigger fish? Our calls last only for 15-20 min. every time. He calls me most of the time. Not that I don't want to but I'm just tired of his behavior and not sure if he is seeing other girls while he keeps pushing my paper at the bottom of the pile each time. I'm also shy n don't know what to talk about. I'm bothered by the fact that everytime he calls, he is either driving to go to somone's house/party/airport, etc. He has suggested meeting and I said yes but he never followed through and came up with a plan. He is divorced (ended his wedding in few hours. I have not yet asked the reason why. I waited to notice some more red flags) It has been 6 months already. I feel like writing an email and ending it. I'm tired of waiting around. My friend said "why bother writing an email? don't call/return his calls/emails. He will get the message". Can anyone tell me what is going on here? Am I a chat buddy now? Link to comment
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