I think i'm in love with my sister's best friend

[highcliff]

Hey everyone. As you can see from the title, i have feelings for one of my sis's friends. I told my sis, and she is ok with it, but i'm at that stage where i want to work out what i feel for her. i don't want to make a mistake and hurt her finding out she isn't the one for me, because i care about her a lot. I want to be sure before i dive into this. I was just wondering if anyone had any idea of how you know in yourself whether you love someone, and not just feel attracted to them? I want a long-term, serious relationship with this girl.

We get along fine, i just don't know whether she feels something for me. My sis told me she likes me, but i don't know whether it goes beyond that. I think she is pretty, she's nice, and she's fun to be around.

 

Not only that, but i want to know the best way to say i care about her and love her, if i do really feel that way (and i hope that i do). Do i outright tell her in a heartfelt way ("I think you are amazing, and i love you") kind of way, or do i be more subtle about it?

 

I want to know what to do, because i really don't want to screw this up. Thanks in advance.

[charmed]

Hi Highcliff,

 

Firstly, I want you to think about two words for a second.

Love, and Attraction.

 

I've been in love once, and I have convinced myself that I have been in love many times when I;ve been attracted. What I do know is that it's very difficult to love someone when you haven't got the same committment from them. Love is a two way thing really - and one side fuels the other.

 

So, I suggest that you are strongly attracted to this girl, and you should certainly look into it. Regarding what you should say to her, consider something like " I really like you and would love to spend some time with you - I think we could be good together" or something similar. Whatever you do, don't claim to be in love with her. It will probably scare her off.

 

So, go easy, but let her know you are interested in her, and see how she reacts. You will risk less aswell once you haven't told her you are in love with her !

 

Hope this helps you some,

[highcliff]

Thanks charmed.

 

Its a good idea to take it slow and get to know her better. So i'll try and ask her out, and go from there.

 

Hopefully it all works out.