noieaumisere Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 The first time you had sex, was it because you were in love, or was it more out of lust? It would help to know a bit of background, too, nothing major... (ie: was it your SO, were you young, etc.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose21 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 My 1st time...Well It was with a boyfriend, now my ex, but I believe it was more lust then love. I was naieve, and confused. And desperate for sombody to love at the time. It was more a dependency thing. I was 18. My 2nd, my current boyfriend is the real deal. This is purely love, and he is my soul mate. This is how sex is supposed to feel! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drewciouS281 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 lust all the way baaaaybeee!! whoot! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noieaumisere Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 Rose21- Glad to hear you've found somebody special! So do you ever regret the first time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noieaumisere Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 Rose21- Glad to hear you've found somebody special! So do you ever regret the first time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallingAllAngels Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 My first time was with my first long term boyfriend.....it was definitely love, all the way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jettison Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 My first time was with someone I had only known for all of 3 days so I know it was only lust. She called it love though. I felt like such a big shot. I wasn't emotionally stable enough to sleep with someone I loved yet though. Am I now? Hmmmm. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D_Lish Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 It wasn't love nor lust. I liked the guy, maybe thought I was in love at the time, had a three month relationship with him, but he wasn't my 'first love'.... Met my first love, a few months later ....then found out what it was like to be REALLY 'in love'.....and I wish I'd waited. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noieaumisere Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 Okay. Do any of you regret the first time, then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallingAllAngels Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 NO...not at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D_Lish Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Okay. Do any of you regret the first time, then? Yes, I do.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 My first time was with a guy I thought I loved at seventeen. He dumped me straight after. It hurt at the time, but it doesnt bother me now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose21 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I don't really "regret" my 1st time. I was in a 2 month relationship and THOUGHT I was in love but about half a year later I met the love of my life, and now know what love truly feels like. I just wish I had waited for my boyfriend, and not wasted my virginity on an ex heroin addict! But Its not a total lost cause. It taught me alot, and I've become a better person and can appreciate my boyfriend that much more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I don't really "regret" my 1st time. I was in a 2 month relationship and THOUGHT I was in love but about half a year later I met the love of my life, and now know what love truly feels like. I just wish I had waited for my boyfriend, and not wasted my virginity on an ex heroin addict! But Its not a total lost cause. It taught me alot, and I've become a better person and can appreciate my boyfriend that much more. Thats how I feel now. I was in a two month relationship as well and also thought I was in love. I was sad...but you can't change it...Im glad you've found happiness Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jettison Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Okay. Do any of you regret the first time, then? I'm curious to know if any guy would regret his first time. I definitely don't regret mine. It will be etched in my brain for the rest of my life. It's not something I ever give much thought to though. I was just a baby. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melrich Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I'm curious to know if any guy would regret his first time. Fair question but put it in a separate thread....it's not really the OP's question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose21 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Thank you! I'm glad too. That guy seriously scared me and the situation I was in was VERY bad. Me wanting to into the FBI, and never touching a drug or had been drunk in my life, yet pract living with this guy. He was 23, with no car, no job. He had never held a real job in his life except for selling drugs. He got most of his money from his 33 yr old gay roomate who did make up at a strip club. The first 2 weeks he lived in a hotel, and thats where I had to see him and stay the weekends at. He was an ex heroin addict, and luckily never got into it while I was with him, but every other kind of drug you could imagine he did. Such as 40 xanax at once just to fall asleep (I take that for anxiety, but its like 0.25 mg and its just one like once every few weeks when I really need it!) And he would drink, take GHB, roll, and his roomate did Ice. Yeah stupid huh? Dont know WHAT I was thinking. I had major doubts after we had sex, but the whole point I stayed with him was just because we did and I wanted it to be right. But my boyfriend is the love of my life, and we are VERY happy. I am so glad I found a guy like him and very lucky. It's almost like I had to date only losers and be hurt until I found my soulmate. He's steady, reliable, loving, sincere, has a job, has a very strong work ethic and is very mature. I feel so lucky. I may of lost my virginity to a loser, but now I can make up for it with a wonderful guy. And what makes matters better, is that I was HIS first for everything. He hadn't even gone past kissing before he met me=) He's the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is also very patient with all of my crazy mood swings due to b-control. Gotta love him! lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Aw so sweet. I've just entered a relationship with a very nice man and it makes me see that the mistakes I made with guys in the past, especially my first, have allowed me to appreciate that nice guys are just as good as the whole 'bad boy' thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D_Lish Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I'm curious to know if any guy would regret his first time. I definitely don't regret mine. It will be etched in my brain for the rest of my life. It's not something I ever give much thought to though. I was just a baby. Well my first love didn't and doesn't regret me being his first. He came looking for me after ten years had passed, so I figure he doesn't regret it one bit...... lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jettison Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Fair question but put it in a separate thread....it's not really the OP's question. I guess I'm not really that curious. But to stay on topic, I felt like I was in love with a girl before I had ever slept with anyone. And then when I slept with a woman that I wasn't in love with it opened my eyes to the idea of separating love and lust for the first time. Before that, I always just assumed I would sleep with whoever I was in love with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i_win Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 ---both! =) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
noieaumisere Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 And what makes matters better, is that I was HIS first for everything. He hadn't even gone past kissing before he met me=) Did that ever affect you or him, though? I'm curious, because I'm in the same situation only I'm the "inexperienced" one. I actually asked this question because I was sort of hoping to get insight without bringing it up to him. I sometimes get really insecure about it. He had sex with his one girlfriend of a little under a year when he was about 15 or 16. I'm a virgin, you see, so I don't have any knowledge about "first times" or anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doyathink Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I cared for him a lot. Wasn't love or lust. I do regret it, I was too young, but I don't regret that he was my first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaBladeRoden Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I'm only the future can tell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HellFrost666 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Mine was out of love at the time... But I was only 15, so it was a 15 year old's concept of love. She was 18... yea I still brag about that, lol... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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