confusedwithboys Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I seem to have bad luck with attracting the wrong men. I have found lately that unavailable men (who are married or have GF's) end up being the only guys attracted to me. I am in no way open to going after someone who is in a relationship so I find myself perpetually single. I was talking with a friend and she suggested it might have something to do with how I act with unavailable men vs. available ones...assuming that the unavailable ones should NOT be attracted to me and thus I can be more relaxed, vs. feeling that I should be making a good impression on the available guys. I honestly wouldn't say I act markedly different in either situation although I have no choice but to wonder. With most people (men and women) I am a bubbly and flirtacious person; not overly sexual, but flirtacious anyways. Any advice?? As I said before, have no desire to continue attracting married guys or guys with GF's. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dearclarity Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I think your friend might be on to something. I would suggest trying just to put the dating/ramance situation out of your mind and just trying to make a lot of friends. Presume everyone is off limits. Chances are good that you will feel exceptionally confident and will end up attracting someone--hopefully this time it'll be someone available. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pegasus Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Any advice?? As I said before, have no desire to continue attracting married guys or guys with GF's. Do you get attracted to unavailable men? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
psychoanalytical Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Yeah well, just the way it is sometimes. Maybe it just means your not ready for a relationship, and u just want to have some fun. And ur probably in denial about it and complicating things unnecessarily. And you'll probably regret doing it later because there are consequences to everything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confusedwithboys Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 Do you get attracted to unavailable men? No, I wouldn't say I am attracted to unavailable men, but seeing as how they seem to become attracted to me I end up becoming better friends with them...which may look like I am attracted to them from the outside, but I'm not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confusedwithboys Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 Maybe it just means your not ready for a relationship, and u just want to have some fun. And ur probably in denial about it and complicating things unnecessarily. And you'll probably regret doing it later because there are consequences to everything. I'm not entirely sure what you mean by this. In denial about what? I will regreat doing what? I am in no way going after these guys, I have no more contact with them than normal friends...and I try to not put myself in the position where I am alone with them without someone else there. Occasionally (meaning like once every two months) I will go out for lunch with one (we work together) but that is what friends do, no? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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