What to do about an old crush?

[sandoval1984]

In high school, I had a huge crush on a girl in my grade--I mean huge. She was all I could think about or dream about for nearly three years. We became reasonably good friends, and because I was extremely shy I couldn't ask her out. To make a long and painful story short, senior year I asked her out only to find out that someone else had asked her out earlier that day.

 

Flash forward four years: I have a girlfriend who I have had since the summer after high school, and we have a pretty good relationship (my first and her first). My crush sent me a message about two years ago on a social networking site, and we've gone out lunch several times since then (my girlfriend knows about the message and the lunches, FYI). After our last lunch a few weeks ago, it became painfully clear to me that I was still not over her.

 

I thought I would be able to be just friends with her, but I don't think that will work. I've considered telling her that I still have feelings for her, and as such cannot continue to remain friends because I don't want to jeopardize my relationship or put myself through the hell I went through in high school. What scares me, though, is that I've also considered breaking my relationship off with my girlfriend to try again with my crush, and the fact that I've even thought about that makes me think there is something wrong with me. I really don't know what to do. Any advice?

[Bradster]

It was just a crush back in high school but you have a 4 year history with your girlfriend, do you really want to throw that all away for a little crush?

 

Keep your mouth shut and get over her, there is far too much at stake imo.

[ghost69]

stop talking to her and focus on your gf. if you aren't into your gf, end it then talk. don't be a backstabber.