justanotherhurtguy Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 My girl and I have been dating for over a month now. We used to work together, but she got let go. We hang out every night and she used to be so excited to see me. I would get these cute texts from her all the time saying how much she missed me and that I should hurry to her when I got off of work. Now she's been hanging out with her friend for almost 2 weeks now all the time since they both dont have jobs. Now they may be getting jobs at the same place together. We had a few arguments before about my worrying if she was cheating or if she had feelings for him. She said absolutely not and that she was with me and not him. I know he has feelings for her, strong ones and now I feel she is slowly pulling away from me. I hardly get texts or calls anymore, any time I try to plan something, they already did it before so it seems repetitive. If I text her it takes up to 20 min for her to respond and she has her phone on her ALL the time. Whenever I'm with her and she gets a text she responds to whoever (mostly him)immediately. She says that she loves me etc. and occasionally shows affection for me. But it just doesn't feel the same. It's almost as if she's doing it to ease my worrying. They even go out to eat with her parents, something I still haven't done yet. I just can't keep taking vacation days, I'm not a huge text'er (like they both are), I don't IM (like they do), and I can't be with her a lot now since I work long hours. I just don't have the money to go to all these places, I don't even know where their money is going since they don't have jobs. The passed two days I've tried to be intimate with her and she said she was "too tired" or she didn't want to take a chance on waking her parents. (this never stopped her before). I don't know what to do. I've started just going to the gym in the evening instead of going out with her right away. She's usually with him when I go out to see her. Maybe in my absense she'll come around again. I'm lost. I just don't feel the excitment in seeing her anymore because of this. Yes I've been cheated on by ex's 3 times in the past, and all 3 times it was with one of their "guy-friends". I've tried so hard to look passed this, but this situation is so similar to my last 3. I don't know what to do... :sad: Link to comment
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