DvlsAdvc8 Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 The annual argumentative drive towards Christmas has begun early this year. Every year its the same thing, my wife wants to fly accross country to visit her family, and I don't want to. I argue that its too expensive to do every year. She fires back that we need to move closer so it won't cost so much. I suggest that we create two savings accounts (in addition to our joint account that pays the bills etc): One for things she wants to do that I don't, and vice versa. That way I don't care about the cost and she can fly as often as she can afford. She fires back that separating money like that scares her. I mention that if I demanded to see my family every year, there would be no way we could see hers every year. She says that's not a fair reason to keep her from seeing her family every year because I don't even want to see mine every year. She can't see my point that it doesn't matter how I chose to spend my fair 50% of those resources, be it visiting my family every year, or doing something else and visiting family every other year or every 3 years. I've offered to go every other year, but that's not enough she says - she won't get to see them for 2 years at a time. There is no solution that involves her not seeing them EVERY single year. It would be one thing if it involved flying between major airports, but no... her family lives in BFE nowhere and we have to fly into a dinky regional airport ($$$). So every year I'm forced to burn money and my vacation time - and I've about had it. What's more, I met her in college, and she agreed to move away even after I asked if she was 100% sure - and told her we wouldn't be able to visit every year. ARRRGGG! I'm sick to death of this fighting and always letting her get her way. The last two flights to visit her family are still sitting on my credit card. Anyone have any ideas how I can put an end once and for all to this annual fight? I completely hate Christmas now. Link to comment
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