junebirthday Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 Hello all, My bf and I have been dating for a little over 7 months. Everything was going brilliantly until he had to take on a second job to pay off some old debts. At first, I was thrilled to know that he was tackling them on his own (as opposed to getting deeper in debt or running to parents), but now i NEVER SEE HIM. It's almost as if he's left me for another woman (not implying that!). It's horrible. He works one job from 9-5pm and then a second job Mon., Tues. Wed. and Fri. from 10pm-6AM!!!!! I have 2 nights free and we used to sleep over eachother's houses both of those nights. Now...he works both of those night and i am alone. No sleeping over. I have one day off (Sat.) and now, he needs to catch up on sleep on Sat. Don't see him Sat. unless late in the day. If i have any free time during the week, i USED to go to his house to see him, but now, i stay far away for fear his trying to regain lost hours of sleep. And inevitably all this lack of sleep has caused his libido to be non-existent. We have sex maybe once every month or so (down from about 4x a week) Truth is, i feel almost completely abandoned. I say almost because most of his free time is spent with me (and my kids), but even the quality of that time has gone down (he's sleepy or cranky). And now, he's telling me "I have no time for myself!" There's so many people and jobs that have stake in his FREE TIME that i simply do not know how to handle this. Am i not being understanding? The one consolation is he calls all the time, writes me emails from his day job and when we are together, he's very warm and loving as always. There's no other woman. But i feel like i've been dumped. i don't know what right i have (after only dating him for 7 months-- but we have known eachother as friends for 16 yrs) to complain about this extra job. Do i have any right? Should i give up on this man? i'm at my wit's end. Thanks Link to comment
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