BlackOps Posted September 10, 2008 Share Posted September 10, 2008 So I got home from my office tonight and started to get ready for the gym. Something in my head said to call my ex-wife. Not the usual I wonder what she's doing she hasn't called in 4 days thing this was the 'something's wrong' feeling. I ignored it and continued changing as the feeling got stronger and yeah, I caved. On the rare occasion I do call her if she answers it's with a happy sounding "Hey there, what's up?" Tonight it was a sullen "Hey" all I said was "What's the matter?" Nothing she said. "I'm not your husband any longer you don't have to lie to me. Pretend I'm someone else and out with it." She teaches third grade and had a lousy day, really lousy. I was empathetic because my day sucked too and just listened. She made a comment about quitting and doing something else. I told her to not do that since even though we seem to forget it we always find out that the grass is never greener on the other side, more talking about the divorce than her day at that point, "Ain't that the truth" She said. I said her she needed a veggie burrito from her favorite place by my house, she'd feel better. "Naw, I'll forage for something here, I don't want to leave." I had changed clothes and was already in the car. You can't spend nearly 2 decades with someone and not know what they are really saying. I knew that tone. I put the phone on mute for a second ordered and had it made before she knew what was going on then drove to her house. As I'm nearing her street I asked if she was expecting company. No she wasn't, glad I asked that would have sucked. She kept talking and when she paused I asked her if she could do me a huge favor. She said "Sure do you need to go? "No" I say "but could you open your front door?" This all happened in a span of 30 minutes. She did and I tell her that I didn't need to come in. That I just wanted to drop something off and I handed her the burrito She invited me in. We talked she teared up a little and was glad she could talk about it with me that she felt much better. After 20 minutes I told her I should go and at the door I looked her in the eyes and told her I was glad she felt better and hoped for a better day tomorrow. She usually kisses me goodbye and gives me a little hug. This time I leaned in and kissed her it was small and short but damn it she let me. The hug was a little longer too. I have never done anything like this since the divorce in July but tonight I felt like I should. I'm glad I did and don't have that "Damn, that was stupid." feeling. I am going back to speaking to her only when she contacts me but I am wondering if a simple "Hope today is a better day for you." text tomorrow morning would be appropriate. Or do I let this stay in her brain awhile? Link to comment
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