Jester75 Posted September 9, 2008 Share Posted September 9, 2008 question for ENA'ers: How does someone with little self-confidence, who *wants* to be able to approach women, overcome their fears to do so? Fears are of rejection, looking/feeling dumb, getting shot down etc. example - There was a very cute girl at a store I was walking through (was a womens clothing store, but I used it as a shortcut to get to another part of the mall) who really caught my eye, and I smiled at her and said hi, but realized I had absolutely no idea how to talk to her, or what to do/say. I don't know if I am too old for her or she is way out of my league or anything?! It's like my brain came up with a million reasons why it wouldn't work, even though I was thinking about her days afterwards. This has happened a couple of times. Where I see someone I am very attracted to, and want to talk to them, but don't have the confidence to do so. It makes me kind of mad at myself. Secondly, how do you know if someone is "out of your league"? does that really exist? I know I am not brad pitt or anything, but I am not bad looking. I feel my biggest problem is lack of self-confidence. I find myself attracted to certain types of women (curvy, short, cute, green or blue eyes) and I want to purse that because I have been in relationships where the attraction wasn't there and I don't want to go through that again. sorry if this is rambling. Jester Link to comment
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