Change

[eric77]

My wife and i are going thru a rough time right now,, i have finally adimitted to her that something happened last year with another woman.. She was ready to leave before that,, but now i am not sure.. She told me that she wants me to change,, stop being so controlling,, jealous,, etc.. But my question is,, is ok for a married woman to be going out to bars on the weekend without her spouse,, or am i just being a little to controlling on this issue,, or do i just need to let her have that space

[mrmaximum]

What led to the issues with the other woman? How long has she been going out without you? It's going to be very difficult asking her to curb her behavior when her trust in your fidelity is questionable. Are you guys going to counseling?

[doityourself]

I think if theres not trust then what do you have. It would make me want to go out more if my hub told me I couldnt.

 

Plus you are not in charge of this women she is your other half.

[loulee]

Why dont you concentrate on rebuilding the trust that your choices and actions have shattered in your relationship, start giving your wife lots of reassurance and love...you have some work to do...im sure you have hurt her enormously...she will want to spend more time with you and less away from you if you do this.. and has told you to change some things she cannot cope with (controlling/jealousyetc) maybe you could work on your misgivings and see what natural progressions develop in your relationship...making rules?? you broke them you need to fix them and stop driving her away.. her still being with you indicates she wants to be with you...start that mending...