Worst time of day?

[Delmo]

Just wondering if there is a particular time of day when people feel at their lowest. For me it is without doubt the mornings, I wake thinking about her and cannot shake her from my mind for a couple of hours (not that she is ever off my mind but at other times I have hope and feel strong.)

My brother on the other hand, who has just come out of a 10 year relationship, says the mornings are the times of day when he feels at his best, new day - new start sort of thing.

[phoenixgirl]

In the mornings I have a lot of other stuff to think about, like meetings, work, bills to pay,etc, which keep my mind of the ex. So mornings are ok.

 

Nights are much harder for me.

[Nearwater]

I have to vote for which TWO times a day.

 

Mornings, wake up 5 am for the bathroom, then toss and turn till 6-7 dreaming about her,

fighting obsessive thoughts and feeling like crying.

 

Then early evening, cooking dinner alone, should I make a drink? what the hell, then end up crying a bit, then read ENA and try to help someone feel better I hope, then try to sleep and repeat the process...

[denise_14]

After 5... you know, when I'm travelling from office to home alone because if he was around then he would drive me home and I don't need to commute. It's also the transition time of day - when the dark overpowers light. Plus, I'm all tired and exhaused from work.

 

The nights are much harder. Mornings are fine. When the alarm rings, I jump out of bed and hit the shower. There's no more time to reminisce or else I'll be late for work.

[atelis]

seems to be late afternoon for me and when i got to bed. i haven't been sleeping well at all. as soon as my head hits the pillow, the only thing i can think about is her and i wake up thinking about her

[GottaLetItBurn]

Mornings are so hard for me because I feel like I should be energized instead of looking at the day as going by too slow and painful. Nights are like when everyone is at my energy level and I feel relaxed. I really have to force myself to move in the mornings if I'm not sleeping past noon.

[pacodemil]

Right when I get in bed because I have time to reflect on all of the things that have gone wrong for me.

[Ixtapa]

Early in the morning and late in the evening...

[lapseinjudgement]

Id say the worst time is when i go to bed at night. I lay down alone and just think. Ive learned thinking is evil!

[Dani0613]

I had a hard time with the mornings. Waking up to another day without her and knowing that I had to make it thru a whole day...again. Nights were rough too, but those were easily remedied with an OTC sleep aid!

[LCmay322]

I have a hard time with mornings also! I wake up to thinking about him and I don't anymore but I used to just stare at my phone hoping he would call like he used to in the mornings on his way to classes.

Also, at night while I'm laying down watching tv. We would always talk on the phone at 9 or he would be there watching tv with me.

It's getting a little better though if that helps... there will always be relapses though!

[COtuner]

First login to email in the morning without the usual good morning note every day for the last 4 years sets the tone for the morning, although I can make it through on weekdays because I have a lot to do. At most a 2-5 minute crack in the armor appears and I'll start crying in the bathroom or bedroom when getting ready for work (something will trigger it).

 

Evenings... that's tougher. Many more triggers. I'm trying to avoid email in the evenings since we used to email back and forth all evening long with updates on what we were doing. Still, all it takes is a tv show, movie, song, sudden thought, or just random wave of pain from something during the day and I'll sink pretty low or occasionally still cry. Sometimes I get angry, which is easier but no more productive.

[dead]

mornings were-are bad for me too, seems to be an automatic thing to think of them, like the mind is playing a cruel trick

[evo12]

on the way home, going home to an empty apartment and knowing that I'm alone.

[monty44]

i would say the mornings. Getting up to another day knowing you dont have that special person anymore.

[exploding head]

weekends are the hardest for me.

[photogo]

Whenever i see her name being mention, the break up rush back fresh in my head. Then mornings when i wake up and in the car driving to school. And night time when I think of my day. =[

[HoTung]

Mornings definitely - i hate them esp if i dream about him

[pinkie1272]

Hi, I'm with you Delmo. My worst time of morning would have to be mornings. As soon as I open my eyes, everything just hits me again like a ton of bricks. It eases after awhile and then I can usually go on with my day.