This sounds weird, but I almost get annoyed when someone calls me cute.

[scared and alone]

Just because I don't believe it. I think I am weird looking and not attractive.

[Dragunov-21]

Join the ranks of millions of girls (and guys) who just don't buy that they're attractive, despite plenty of assurances to the contrary lol.

 

You don't have to believe it, but try to accept it graciously.

[scared and alone]

oh i do! im just like O.o ok... like im thinking in my head ' i dont believe you but thanks!'

[schaser]

I think if people give compliments, most often than not they are being sincere. Why do you think you look weird? Have people told you they think you look weird?

 

I sometimes think that confidence is kind of a snowball thing. If people continually put us down, then it can snowball into lower and lower self-esteem and confidence. But if people continually compliment us, then it can lead to a snowball up, so to speak. This might be one reason for attractive people generally being more confident in general.

 

But I think it all starts from the individual. Someone told me once that they thought negative feelings bring in negative events in our life, and positive feelings bring in positive things and thinking about it i can see how it's so.

[Tom the fool]

A word of advice to complimenters: give compliments that are specific to the person. Or better yet, just make an observation that might actually be of some benefit beyond just building self-esteem:

 

• you know, you look really pretty with your hair up/down.

• I always like to hear your thoughts on that sort of thing. You always see people in the best light, reminds me not to be so cynical.

• Wow, you have a mischievous side, don't you?

• I can't think of anyone else that could pull that off.

 

Or whatever. Those aren't necessarily great compliments, as such, but usually if I get one of these, I appreciate it more than a generic compliment. The point isn't that they're good. The point is that they fit into a specific context and emerge naturally out of that context.

 

I think the more generic compliments are usually sincere, but are sometimes sort of worthless. For instance, so WHAT if I am, objectively speaking, attractive, if there isn't a specific woman who, subjectively speaking, wants to be with me. So WHAT if I am, objectively speaking, very intelligent, so long as I haven't actually used my intelligence to the benefit of others? And so on.

 

My policy is to say, "thank you," and move on. Sometimes, phrases like, "you look nice," are akin to the standard greeting of, "good morning," or an expression like a smile. Don't think of these things as propositions containing meaning: "scared and alone is cute," but as sentences that serve a function in cementing friendships.

[Dragunov-21]

Tell you what, post a pic and we'll have a good ol fashioned poll lol

[metrogirl]

At my age, I'll take whatever compliment comes my way.

[Dragunov-21]

I get annoyed too. I find it embarrassing at times. I always feel I should return the compliment but I can't if I don't mean it. Sometimes I feel like I'm like an object or a 5yr old kid!

 

Lol, just lower your eyes and blush a little - all the response that's required

[Dragunov-21]

Don't be so bold!

 

Hey, stock standard coy never gets old.

 

^^rule number four