confused25 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Met this guy out at the bars this past weekend, had a lot of fun hanging out with him. At the end of the night he didn't ask me for my number but instead asked me for my phone so that he could program his number into my phone. He told me to give him a call sometimes if I ever wanted to hang out again. Sooo what does it mean when a guy gives you his number instead of asking for mine? Is he interested or just whatever about it? The thing is that I'm horrible at initiating calls so I don't know if I would work up the courage to do that. Link to comment
Carmine Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Sometimes girls don't feel comfortable giving out their numbers, even with guys they like. It eases any fear or burden the girl might have when the guy just gives his number and leaves the decision up to the girl to continue. Just call him. Link to comment
amtjrtcet Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Sometimes girls don't feel comfortable giving out their numbers, even with guys they like. It eases any fear or burden the girl might have when the guy just gives his number and leaves the decision up to the girl to continue. Just call him. I agree. The last 'relationship' I was in he asked me for my number and I said "how bout you give me yours and I'll call you".....And I did a few days later. He told me he didn't think I'd call, but I just felt more comfortable not giving mine out. I think its fine. Call him if you're interested. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 You might not like this idea but why dont you text him instead? Just something friendly like how are you or something, that way its not as nervy for you as calling him and then he has your number too? Then take it from there..... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 it could go either way. hit him up if you like him. Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Guess I'm old-fashioned but I would not call a guy who gave me his number. My thinking is: if he's interested he can have my number, call me, and ask me out. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Guess I'm old-fashioned but I would not call a guy who gave me his number. My thinking is: if he's interested he can have my number, call me, and ask me out. I agree! Just my opinion... Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Aw c'mon ladies, isnt it supposed to be about equality these days? If i liked him id contact him and see where it goes. Anyways, hes has kind of initiated being in contact again by giving his number, if he didnt want you to he wouldnt have given it, right? Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Aw c'mon ladies, isnt it supposed to be about equality these days? If i liked him id contact him and see where it goes. Well, I guess I just don't do this because I don't think it would be effective for me. In my personal experience, if a guy likes me, he'll take my number and call to set something up. If I've had to call and especially if I've had to ask the same guy on more than one date, they just never seemed all that interested. So it made me give up even being the first to call. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Well, I guess I just don't do this because I don't think it would be effective for me. In my personal experience, if a guy likes me, he'll take my number and call to set something up. If I've had to call and especially if I've had to ask the same guy on more than one date, they just never seemed all that interested. So it made me give up even being the first to call. Same here and ditto to your above post... I wouldn't call a guy. If he's interested....then call me Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Lady- Yeah i see your point of view but maybe its a case of he really wants her to call him but wanted to leave it up to her so as not to be pushy in any way....I dunno if i had good vibes from him when id spent the time with him before this and i kinda liked him id contact him. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Lady- Yeah i see your point of view but maybe its a case of he really wants her to call him but wanted to leave it up to her so as not to be pushy in any way....I dunno if i had good vibes from him when id spent the time with him before this and i kinda liked him id contact him. He wants her to run up his ass in other words....lol Any interested man, would run up yours Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 He wants her to run up his ass in other words....lol Any interested man, would run up yours Hmmm....possibly but still, call me stupid but id still want to find out if i liked him, if i found it to be it to be the case that he wanted me to run up his ass then hed be history Link to comment
D_Lish Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Hmmm....possibly but still, call me stupid but id still want to find out if i liked him, if i found it to be it to be the case that he wanted me to run up his ass then hed be history Well I don't call guys now, for simple fact that twice in the past I got a guys number, 'call me'....they said and when I did, one of them said 'Who is this'? and the other just didn't pick up....lol When they have asked for mine, they always caled... Think I would be less likely to call, if it was some guy I met in a bar or club and he'd had a few drinks. Which is how I came to have the two guys numbers, that I mention above Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Well I don't call guys now, for simple fact that twice in the past I got a guys number, 'call me'....they said and when I did, one of them said 'Who is this'? and the other just didn't pick up....lol When they have asked for mine, they always caled... Think I would be less likely to call, if it was some guy I met in a bar or club and he'd had a few drinks. Which is how I came to have the two guys numbers, that I mention above Yeah, this is why im not dating right now, i cant be doing with it all at the mo! haha x Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I think I would call, but not ask him out. He's trying to see if she's interested. Maybe he's been given some fake numbers before, haha. So now he's just giving her his number. If she calls, he knows she's interested. It can be less intimidating for a guy instead of calling and hearing the rejection. In this case, the lack of phone call is the rejection. But once I called, to me that would be enough and I would want him to take the next step. Link to comment
thinkstoohard Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I think I would call, but not ask him out. He's trying to see if she's interested. Maybe he's been given some fake numbers before, haha. So now he's just giving her his number. If she calls, he knows she's interested. It can be less intimidating for a guy instead of calling and hearing the rejection. In this case, the lack of phone call is the rejection. But once I called, to me that would be enough and I would want him to take the next step. I agree with this post. I would text him, say it was great to meet him, you had fun, etc. Close it with "now you have my number so give me a call". Something along those lines. To the other posters, I don't think that it should always be up to the guys. I do agree that there is a certain sense of equality these days and it is only growing. That said, sI'm a good looking successful dude yet I get rejected all the time. It happens to EVERYONE but sometimes I just get sick of it so I will give my number out instead. Could very well be the case here. I think if you like the guy you should put yourself on a limb and drop him a line. Don't ask him out, leave that to him. Just make it easy for him to see you're interested and I bet he'll make the next move. Good luck! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Maybe text something such as "hi, just wanted to see hows it going" and go from there. There is a possibiliity that if you didn't know him well he gave you his number so that you could initiate first since some women are uncomfortable giving their phone number out to a guy they don't know well. Since you met him in a bar he likely did it this way (giving you his number vs asking for yours) to make it easier on you wthout asking you to give up the digits. He is interested or he wouldn't haVe programmed his number into your phone. I wouldn't ask him out, but i would send a text or call just to open up the lines of communication to let him know you are okay with him having your number. He might not know if you want him to have it or not. If all of this is his reasoning he was being respectful of you and your privacy. Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Haven't read the whole thread. Sure I'd call him. Once. By making sure you have his number, he put the ball in your park. Call him once. Put the ball back in his court. Link to comment
preciousgirl82 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 He said to call him....CALL HIM...if he doesn't return your call or plays games, then forget it. Link to comment
Crush85 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Any interested man, would run up yours It's not always that easy. It's alot of pressure for some guys to work up the courage to ask out a girl, and the girl has the easy task of saying "yes" or "no." Some guys are pros at it, but not me. The guy is probably just playing it safe right now. He wants to see if she's interested before asking her out. But if the girl calls him back, then that's his opportunity to ask her out. Link to comment
Carmine Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Guess I'm old-fashioned but I would not call a guy who gave me his number. My thinking is: if he's interested he can have my number, call me, and ask me out. Same here and ditto to your above post... I wouldn't call a guy. If he's interested....then call me He was interested in you enough to volunteer his number. Guys can't win - it's that simple. I've heard some girls complain about guys asking for their numbers, saying that it's too risky to give their number out to some random guy. Now you're all saying that you wouldn't call him if he gave you his number (totally putting the ball in your court). That's ridiculous to me. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 He was interested in you enough to volunteer his number. Guys can't win - it's that simple. I've heard some girls complain about guys asking for their numbers, saying that it's too risky to give their number out to some random guy. Now you're all saying that you wouldn't call him if he gave you his number (totally putting the ball in your court). That's ridiculous to me. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. In this instance Carmine I agree. the guy probably did what he did to make her feel safe and not ask her to give out her number. Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 This has actually never been an issue for me. Then again, I've never been asked for my number by a complete and total stranger that I met without any context. That's just not how I meet guys. I usually meet guys through friends, work, etc and I usually don't feel afraid of giving them my numbers. Maybe it's a false sense of security but it's never been a problem so far *crosses fingers*! Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 This has actually never been an issue for me. Then again, I've never been asked for my number by a complete and total stranger that I met without any context. That's just not how I meet guys. I usually meet guys through friends, work, etc and I usually don't feel afraid of giving them my numbers. Maybe it's a false sense of security but it's never been a problem so far *crosses fingers*! But a guy who respects the girl will often offer his number so as to not encroach on her privacy. And i think that is what the guy in question has done. Whether she would have gladly given her number or not isn't really the point, the point moreso that he probably wanted her to feel more comfortable so he plugged his number into her phone. I think the only reason she shouldn't call him is if she simply isn't interested. If she is it seems awfully silly to me for her not to make that first call and get the ball rolling. Link to comment
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