crosstownTraffic Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I met this guy a few months back... i guess it's been about 4 months now.....The very first nite we met, at a music jam, I suggested we go out and get somethign to eat and play some pool. He agreed and after dropping him off at his car.. (he was parked pretty far from the place we played and walked me to his car, so I figured, why not?)... he followed me to the place we were going to get some food and, then, after pulling into the parking lot.. said he just got a call from one of his friends, who needed a ride desperately and he had to take off for a while. He asked me to wait for him.. said it would only take about an hour... so I sat at this bar waiting all by myself.. I then got a call saying, he had to go way farther than he thought.. and he was not going to be able to make it back in time!! I was sort of annoyed to be honest but did not say anythign cuz it was late by the time he called.... still... i could of gone out and had some fun by myself without sitting at some place all that time waiting for him to show up. After that we started to talk on the phone alot... After a week or so, he asked me out for something to eat......It was fun.. but never told me he had a girlfriend until after our nite out! He's a lot younger than me.. another thing I did not know.. and way too young to date.. but he's a cool person and someone I wouldn't mind hanging out with.... However.. that has been the only time we've gone out together or did anything with.... I have been out of town for about 7 weeks until a few days ago.. so... that plays a part I guess.. but..... the other nite I asked him to this place to see a friends band when I got back into town. He agreed to go with me... He says he's willing to go, and to call and give him directions as he will be at work until later.. I go to the trouble of calling the place, getting the directions, then called him back with that... Does he show up? Nope! As I was driving to the place myself.... I get this call that he's had a "bad nite" and is too depressed to come to the place my friends are playing out! I know he was just dumped by his gf of several months (another long story)... but.... he got dumped at least 10 days before this nite out......He was sad the first day or so.. but seems perfectly ok for several days after that! So... he's flaked out again on me! I'm really needing some FRIENDS... i.e. people who want to hang OUT with me, as I have had several deaths in my family lately, including my dog, and I'm really LONELY! Well, it's nice to have someone to talk to on the phone, but i need COMPANY! I told him I was disappointed he did not show up and I'm wondering how to handle this..... Should I just come out and ask him.. look dude.. do all you want to be is phone friends? Cuz I need real friends.. To me.. being friends means hanging out together.. He's offered to make it up to me, right after he called to cancel, and asked if I wanted to go do something on Friday nite... but I was pretty disgusted and didn't really have the money to go out two nites in a row.. He's not offered to go anywhere with me since..... I'm getting fed up really in a way.... I never thought all we would be is phone friends... and though I value his friendship and we've exchanged a lot of personal things with each other over the phone.. this is starting to feel like a sort of an insult.. like I'm not good enough to be his friend in real life. I know for a fact his GF was alot older than him... actually she was about my age.. so it's not like he's age discriminating, but I've never had a "friend" who all they want to do is talk on the phone. How do I approach this? Just say straight out.. look, I'm really lonely now. I need "real" friends, one who want to hang out IRL..... or just let it slide.. which seems stupid. Like tonite I got stood up by this guy I had seen IRL over the weekend.. I was pretty upset as I was looking forward to hanging out with him again.. we seemed to have chemistry. My friend, whom I really do not have chemistry with... had also stood me up earlier this week, and I mentioned that I had been stood up twice to him on the phone.. once by the guy I hang out with, and then by him, himself.. he just sort of said nothing about it.. and changed the subject.. but I'm not feeling appreciated and it's starting to depress me really! Link to comment
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