El Argonauta Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 This forum is the perfect place to find some answers to a problem that has plagued me for a long time, so here goes.. Although at times I am a painfully shy person, which can stop me dead in my tracks. At the same time, since my mid teens when it comes to meeting new people my strong point is spontaneous/random situations where for some reason I can quite easily talk to people I've never met before and often end up making a new friend. This occurs quite frequently whilst just out and about walking, shopping, waiting at the bus stop, travelling on the train, bus and the underground (subway/metro). As an example, just last week during one evening waiting at the bus stop I ended up enjoying conversations on two separate occasions with women that definitely would have gone somewhere if it hadn't been for the sudden arrival of the bus lol What is also very common is that I'll get up to leave a bus/train or exit a shop etc and as I reach the door to get off/leave the location a lady who has been in proximity will smile and or flirt at me. I'm not sure how to respond in these scenarios because my shyness makes me feel awkward to return and then start a conversation without looking clumsy. What do you suggest I do when I find myself in these situations? It happens to me so often that I'm really starting to feel frustrated that these opportunities constantly appear but yet they're lost time and time again. I'm wary of taking out my phone and asking for a number for fear of looking like a desperado or player. Another poster stated that he carries contact cards with him and I think this would work perfectly for me during instances where conversations have started but some exchange of details needs to happen quickly as time is short, especially travelling on/waiting for public transport. Any advice, pointers or suggestions you can offer will really be appreciated, thanks. Link to comment
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