I am often embarrassed by my boyfriends

[alreadyguilty]

Especially when they meet my mother. However, I feel this way around pretty much everyone.

 

I don't know if it's because I'm worried they're being judged or if I'm not dating the right guys. My first bf I was worried that he wasn't tall enough and I felt weird because he was a year younger than me. My second bf, also younger than me, was the captain of the tennis team, yet I still felt embarrassed by him from time to time.

 

Yesterday I told my mom that I met a boy and one of the first things she asked was "he's not weird, is he?". Is that supposed to be a reflection on me?

 

Any input would be nice. Thanks.

[HellFrost666]

If you are embarrassed by dating people younger and shorter then you, only date older taller guys.

 

Or... (and in my opinion this is the better solution) stop worrying so much what other people think.

[JadedStar]

Especially when they meet my mother. However, I feel this way around pretty much everyone.

 

I don't know if it's because I'm worried they're being judged or if I'm not dating the right guys. My first bf I was worried that he wasn't tall enough and I felt weird because he was a year younger than me. My second bf, also younger than me, was the captain of the tennis team, yet I still felt embarrassed by him from time to time.

 

Yesterday I told my mom that I met a boy and one of the first things she asked was "he's not weird, is he?". Is that supposed to be a reflection on me?

 

Any input would be nice. Thanks.

 

I think the problem is probably most likely you if this is with all guys you have dated. YOu might be a little too uptight and might have rigid expectations. That is what it sounds like to me. If someone can't be themselves around you, you probably shouldn't be dating them. It isn't fair to them.

[greensleeves]

If you're embarrassed by a guy, you shouldn't be with him. It's really just a waste of time for both of you. Does the embarrassment exist before they meet your mother, or is it only after she's been critical of them?

[Creative]

 

Yesterday I told my mom that I met a boy and one of the first things she asked was "he's not weird, is he?"

 

 

"As weird as my dad can get."

[JadedStar]

"he's not weird is he"?

 

"Relax mom, not as weird as you!"

[sparkles4]

Haha, my mom asks the EXACT same question about my boyfriends. Then once she meets them she'll always find some reason to tease me about them afterward. Even if they're totally cool, she'll find something. "Nick has a really square-shaped head" and "Jared seems like kind of a dullard" and "Steve looks like a leprechaun." I dunno, I've learned that my mother and I have very different taste in men and what she sees in my boyfriends will never be the same as what I see in them, so if she doesn't approve I just let it slide. As long as your boyfriend is a good guy who makes you happy, you shouldn't be ashamed.

[JadedStar]

Haha, my mom asks the EXACT same question about my boyfriends. Then once she meets them she'll always find some reason to tease me about them afterward. Even if they're totally cool, she'll find something. "Nick has a really square-shaped head" and "Jared seems like kind of a dullard" and "Steve looks like a leprechaun." I dunno, I've learned that my mother and I have very different taste in men and what she sees in my boyfriends will never be the same as what I see in them, so if she doesn't approve I just let it slide. As long as your boyfriend is a good guy who makes you happy, you shouldn't be ashamed.

 

Well when mom says something like "jared seems like a dullard" is doubly fun when you say what i said in my last post to her first. LMAO

[schueysgirl]

My boyfriend is 4/5 years younger than me....doesnt bother me at all...i was never embarressed to tell my parents about him or introduce because age doesnt matter, he is a decent person and treats me very well, hardworking and honest, thereforee my parents shouldnt have a problem.

 

If my boyfriend was a lazy bum without a job, nothing interesting to say or a complete loser then yes i would be embarressed. But age. No.

[ladyblue07]

Don't worry so much about what other people think. If you like the guy, that should be enough.

One of the nice things about living in America is that you can choose your own partner and don't have to go into an arranged marriage with someone your parents like.