undercover007 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 My ex bf and I of 3 years have been broken up for about a month and a half. It was a very nasty break up.. but we also had a very unhealthy relationship and he was emotionally/verbally abusive and i guess i became codependent. I almost feel like i have no real closure from him.. cause the break up occurred over the phone and we said very nasty things to each other. I also found out that he is already in another relationship with a girl that he works with.. and he jumped right into a relationship only a couple weeks after we had broken up! He was hiding it.. but i caught him when i saw with a girl in his car driving. I nearly had a heart attack. He had told me a week earlier he didnt want to date anyone.. and then on top of that, he told me this girl was someone he had just recently met (although i know for a fact they work together) and that there not even in a relationship. But i looked her facebook and they were in a relationship awhile ago. It made me sick to my stomach that he could just move on so fast from a 3 year relationship. Yes i know that our relationship had problems.. but i was ALWAYS willing to work things out. I guess he got tired of it. I understand that.. but it hurt so much that he could just move on to the next girl and throw me like im a piece of trash. He said some pretty mean things when we broke up.. like now he can move on with his life and be happy.. and he called me crazy and psycho.. and then actually laughed when i was crying so hard and hurt for what he had done to me. But then after we both said hurtful things to each other.. he calmed down and told me that he still does care about me which i think is a load of BULLSH. cause he wouldnt have hurt me so many times throughout the relationship. How does he forget all the memories we shared? Does he just block it out? I mean im the longest girl hes ever been with, i was the first to meet his real mom and we took a trip together to see her, i did everything for, i helped him get the job he has today cause i knew how depressed he was about not having a career and now he does, we talked about moving in together, even getting married one day, he would take me to nice places, use to buy me nice things, he did a lot of things for me that he didnt do for his other exes, and our sex life was very passionate. So i know he loved me at one point. but there was also an ugly side to him.. he was selfish a lot of the times, only did things that he wanted to do, unappreciative, he would criticize me and make fun of me, he would say really hurtful things when he was mad or give me the silent treatment, and i always had to walk on eggshells cause i never knew what mood he would be in. The thing that just makes me sad is that he acts like i dont exist and that i never did exist. Now he has a new job (that i helped him get) and a new girl... its like he can shut me off after all these years of me being there for him. I put my heart n soul into the relationship, only to get rejected and tossed out like im a piece of rubbish. I havent heard from him ever since the day i confronted him about seeing him with another girl. He left a lot of clothes at my house and he didnt even want it back. Its like after all the years i was with him..all the history and memories we had together.. is he just going to forget about me and never speak to me again? i feel so used and abused. I dont want him back.. and i kno how unhealthy we were together.. but i still miss him and i still think about all the memories we had. I just want to know that our relationship at least meant something to him cause right now i feel like it didnt mean a thing. can someone just forget a 3 year relationship like that? Link to comment
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