Funstuff Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 Alright well, its my first year in university, started about a week ago, and iv been partying non stop. I don't live in residance but i became friends with people who do, and iv ended up partying with all the res people. Last night, i went to another party and ended up kissing this girl 2 times. She was sort of tugging on my pocket pulling me close, and almost hinting for me to come back to her Dorm. Me being a * * * * * * * didn,t so i don't know if i gave off the vibe as if i didnt want her. we both were pretty drunk, she seemed pretty drunk aswell, but i got her number and texted her today and asked her if she rememberd me, and she said ah oh yes. So we sorta texted and such, then i'd send one and be like we should defintaly chill this week and she said we should for sure. But then i was like we can chill tomorrow after class or somthing , etc and she didn't respond so i just didnt txt and then later i texted and she started talking again, and then sort of just stoped responding, I don't know if she simply like went to do somthing else, and just didn't see etc, or w/e or didnt have time to talk so i texted 2 more times just being like well i'll talk to you tomorrow, and maybe we can hang and i can introduce you to some cool kids, and im gone to charge my phone peace, ill talk to you tomorrow, and still no response. So i don't know if i annoyed her by the texting or what, i think shes gourgeous and i don't want to screw it up, and unforntaully shes not in any of my classes and i dont hang out with people in her res so the likely hood of me meeting her at another party is slimm. Should i just not worry about it, and just text her tomorrow? I don't want to seem obessive and clingy and annoy the * * * * out of her. She seemed interested in me last night any input that could help me out would be cool Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 gosh - why can't you just pick up the phone and call and ask her out on a date? i get massively annoyed when all guys know how to do is text, and they can't actually call. sigh. i sure am grumpy tonight! Link to comment
Funstuff Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 I would but, i just met her last night, shes on res and i have no car, and its pourrring rain out. i was just texting to get it started and was going to possibly call her tomorrow, like between classes, but i have no ideaa what to say =/ Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 why does the fact that it's raining and you have no car have to do with why you can't call? i'm not saying take her out tonight. i'm saying, be a *little* old fashioned here, call her tonight or tomorrow (NOT when you'll interrupt the middle of her class, but at a time you think she might be at home), and ask her out on a real date, like coffee or whatnot. And ask her out for later in the week, not just the same day. seriously. sometimes it bothers me how 'casual' dating has gotten. maybe i'm just an old fogie, but guys who call or text and expect that i'll just be available at the drop of a hat to hang out with them... well, they don't get very far with me. Link to comment
Funstuff Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 why does the fact that it's raining and you have no car have to do with why you can't call? i'm not saying take her out tonight. i'm saying, be a *little* old fashioned here, call her tonight or tomorrow (NOT when you'll interrupt the middle of her class, but at a time you think she might be at home), and ask her out on a real date, like coffee or whatnot. And ask her out for later in the week, not just the same day. seriously. sometimes it bothers me how 'casual' dating has gotten. maybe i'm just an old fogie, but guys who call or text and expect that i'll just be available at the drop of a hat to hang out with them... well, they don't get very far with me. well i may not even be looking for a relationship or anything so not neccesairly a date just a friend to hang with, she seemed pretty cool. I sort of have another thing with a girl but nothing like concrete so im not closed to the possibility of anything. i just hope she didn't get like hurt when i didn't proceed with going back with her to her dorm, but she seems like shes ok, she does talk to me and i don't like talking to her but i don't want to come off as a creep by just calling her up. Should i text her tomorrow and ask her what time shes finished classes and then if shes up for anything after then, then call her? Cause the last thing i want to do is call her in the middle of class, or make her annoyed by me texting her Link to comment
Shudder Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 I'd say if you want a straight answer you should have called from the get go. txts are way too confusing and can make a person go crazy in situations like this. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 why would you be a creep for calling her up? and i think just calling and asking when she has free time to hang out is perfectly fine. especially since you have been kissing and she invited you to her room, she clearly is interested in you to some degree. gosh - i wonder sometimes what happened to relations between men and women..... how did men ever get the idea that they would seem 'creepy' by calling a girl they like and asking her out. instead, so many guys just text. it's not just you, of course. i mean, i've dated guys in their 30s who do the same thing. it's just bizarre. Link to comment
Funstuff Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 but should i text tomorrow to find out when shes finished class or just call at like 6ish? she wasnt like "come back to my room" but she was hinting that she has to walk back and sort of tugging me to go. So think i can sort of turn the sticky situation into a better one by calling her, and no more of the texting stuff? i would'nt have texted but its just im shy, and since i don't have her in any of my classes and im not exactly good at the whole doing the right thing in these situations. by creep i mean by like pushing and moving too fast, since we only for like half an hour or more. i dont know like i said im not too good in these kind of things. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 8, 2008 Share Posted September 8, 2008 i don't know what time her classes end, but sure, i think it's reasonable to call at a time like 6-9, just call and say hi, see if she wants to hang out sometime this week. when i was 18 or 19, i definitely wouldn't think a guy was pushing too fast if he called to suggest coffee or studying together or something. Link to comment
Funstuff Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 i don't know what time her classes end, but sure, i think it's reasonable to call at a time like 6-9, just call and say hi, see if she wants to hang out sometime this week. when i was 18 or 19, i definitely wouldn't think a guy was pushing too fast if he called to suggest coffee or studying together or something. think its easily fixable from the situation im in now? well i'll give it a shot. i don't really know what shes in or anything but i just am really shy so i found texting so much easyier =/ but i'll call and ask if she wants to meet up and chill out or somthing. Link to comment
Funstuff Posted September 8, 2008 Author Share Posted September 8, 2008 what should i say? Coffee or just like met up and have lunch together or somthing? Link to comment
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