byates5637 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Long story short - I'm 24, have dated lots of girls in the past, long term and short, but I have been single and dateless for the last 10 months for a couple reasons (a lack of confidence is a big reason, but this is getting better) Anyway, there is this girl that I went on a camping trip (big group trip, 100 people) with two years ago, and we hooked up two nights in a row. We were really drunk during both hookups. After the trip, we didn't really speak for the next two years. We tried to make plans to hang out via myspace once or twice but it never worked out (I kind of blew her off) So last weekend we went on the same camping trip again, and as soon as we saw each other we clicked. We hooked up again, and ended up sleeping together on the 2nd night.(we were drunk again) A few days after the trip I get a late night drunk phone call from her, and we end up meeting to hang out for a little bit last night. Well a little bit turned into us both drinking beer and having sex all night long. It was really amazing. Anyway, I have found myself completely falling for this girl. The more I get to know about her, the more I realize she is exactly my type. I really could see myself having a LTR with her. So how do I persue her, or do I let her persue me? I really feel like I want to call her and see her all the time, but I know I have to show some restraint to keep things interesting and not reveal my hand too early. So how much contact is too much for this early? How long do I wait before indicating that I am interested in something more then just a sex buddy? Link to comment
rocio Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 The more I get to know about her, the more I realize she is exactly my type. You mean the alcoholic type? Here's how I would play this situation: 1. Go to AA 2. Find a woman who doesn't have a drinking problem. Link to comment
byates5637 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 You mean the alcoholic type? Yes I'm into that Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Try to spend some sober time with her. Drinking can change the way people see each other and can make people feel things that aren't there. It alters the state of the mind and changes the way people behave--so often they cannot be their true selves. How about laying off the booze for a while and getting to know each other? Link to comment
lapseinjudgement Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 You mean the alcoholic type? Here's how I would play this situation: 1. Go to AA 2. Find a woman who doesn't have a drinking problem. hahaha jeesh... Id say just play it cool make it visible that your interested but not like obsessive. You know the drill. Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Oh, good GRIEF! Hooking up when you're wasted does NOT a relationship make. Time to address your own drinking problem before you enter into ANY new relationship ... maybe that's the reason why you've been single for almost a year, ever think of that? Link to comment
byates5637 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 I'm having a beer to honor all of my new internet friends right now. Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I'm having a beer to honor all of my new internet friends right now. LOL, to each his own! Only problem is, we won't hook up with you, so don't bother going there! LOL! Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 See if you both can stay sober enough to go on a real date, and do activities together that doesn't involve a bed. Link to comment
byates5637 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 See if you both can stay sober enough to go on a real date, and do activities together that doesn't involve a bed. I guess this is good advice. We're not really alcoholics. Last week was just a special occasion. Link to comment
RedWingsFan Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Here is some (hopefully helpful) non-sarcastic advice... I'm sure you two have activities/hobbies in common. Invite her to do something (tennis, getting ice cream, a day hike, etc.). Just start to hang out more...I find that relationships naturally evolve. It's not middle school here; you don't ask her, "Okay so you, ummm, like...want to go out with me?" Find non-alcoholic, non-late night activities. You'll find out if you two are compatible or whether you were both young, horny, and thought each other were good lookin' while camping. Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I guess this is good advice. We're not really alcoholics. Last week was just a special occasion. Like two years ago? Link to comment
byates5637 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 Like two years ago? It's an annual camping trip. Every labor day weekend we all spend 4 days in the mountains and get trashed. Then I come back to real life where I have tons of responsibilities and don't get the chance to drink very often. Link to comment
annie24 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I guess this is good advice. We're not really alcoholics. Last week was just a special occasion. i remember you posting before about some alcohol abuse problems you were having (i think this was over a year ago). please get a handle on that. and i agree with the others - have some 'sober dates' with her to see if the magic is still there. Link to comment
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