dutc1 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 how can i initiate a hug from a guy I've known for a while (or getting him to start it)? we've hung out four times (twice for breakfast and twice for club meeting). i haven't been flirting too much (occasional hit on the shoulder, touching his arm slightly, etc), so i was hoping i'd somehow try out this method. my previous boyfriend initiated our first hug when he sensed that i was feeling pretty down. of course, thereafter, the hugging got a lot easier. i was hoping that maybe i could try this, but he's reserved, which is surprising since he seems pretty popular with the ladies... Any tips please? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 open your arms in close proximity. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Try acting all down again, or accidently slip.....into his arms, lol Link to comment
CallingAllAngels Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 When he comes to the door, just open your arms and give him a big hug. Take him by surprise. No one turns down a hug. Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Yeah, what's the deal with this awkwardness about giving a hug? It's the easiest thing in the world to do ... just open your arms and pull the person in. Hugging is easier than hand-shaking. I'm confused as to why this is a problem, but then, I'm confused a lot by mere mortals. LOL. Link to comment
jettison Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 This is easy... you kick him in the shins. Instantly, he will bend over, and his arms and shoulders will be much closer to you. That's when you throw your arms outward, then wrap them around his person, then proceed to squeeze. They call this "hugging" I think. Link to comment
KiCkiT Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Like a lot of other people said, just open your arms in close proximity...I think it works the best when you're saying good-bye. Preceeding it, just say something like "I had a great time hanging out!" as you're opening your arms. He'll most likely hug you back saying "me too." Like allie said, no one turns down hugs!!! if he does, then hes awkward and you shouldn't like him anyways Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 This is easy... you kick him in the shins. Instantly, he will bend over, and his arms and shoulders will be much closer to you. That's when you throw your arms outward, then wrap them around his person, then proceed to squeeze. They call this "hugging" I think. Yeah, I think I've heard of this "hugging" phenomenon, too. Small world! Link to comment
dutc1 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 i know it sounds bizarre to some of you, but i've actually met people who dislike hugs/close proximity (even some friends who dislike invading personal space). so it makes me nervous to approach some people like this... this guy seems friendly and all...i think he's one of those "nice guys," so i'm sure he can't even say no. but still. personally, i love hugs. it brightens up my day. i hope this'll hint that i like him? unless his close lady friends do this, too. Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 i know it sounds bizarre to some of you, but i've actually met people who dislike hugs/close proximity (even some friends who dislike invading personal space). so it makes me nervous to approach some people like this... Mostly people who were abused emotionally or physically when they were young. Or abandoned. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Perhaps if you were sitting next to each other you could begain by putting your head on his shoulder, then hopefully he might then put his arm around you, then comes the hug...... Link to comment
Lowconfidence Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 I think most guys won't turn down a hug from a female, especially if they find her attractive. Link to comment
Lowconfidence Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 Yeah, what's the deal with this awkwardness about giving a hug? It's the easiest thing in the world to do ... just open your arms and pull the person in. Hugging is easier than hand-shaking. There's always the chance he/she won't hug you back and then you'll end up feeling like a creep. It happened to me once this year with a girl. I felt bad afterwards. But we hugged over ten times before she denied me! Today was a good day. Hugged three cuties! May, if an unattractive guy asked you for a hug, would you say no? Link to comment
May_It_Be Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 There's always the chance he/she won't hug you back and then you'll end up feeling like a creep. It happened to me once this year with a girl. I felt bad afterwards. But we hugged over ten times before she denied me! Today was a good day. Hugged three cuties! May, if an unattractive guy asked you for a hug, would you say no? I've never heard of anyone refusing a hug unless they were openly angry at the other person. And yes, if an unattractive guy gave me a hug, I wouldn't say no. I've hugged MANY people that I really didn't especially want to. Hugging doesn't mean much to me, though. I feel more uncomfortable waving than I do hugging. Weird, huh? Hugging is just not an intimate action to me. Don't know why. Link to comment
Raiden1044 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 well, speaking as a guy I can say if a girl wants to hug me that's perfectly fine with me. Doesn't necessarily mean anything to me, but what the hell? A hug is a hug is a hug ^_^ Raiden likes hugs. Not sure on the rules of guys just hugging girls. Wonder if it's the same? Link to comment
dutc1 Posted September 6, 2008 Author Share Posted September 6, 2008 well, it just made me wonder since the guy's a bit shy and all... frankly, my guy friends don't hug me, no matter how close or outgoing they are. the only time guys would actually hug me were when they started developing a special interest in me. generally, i only get them from girls, so even though i know hugs are just a casual thing amongst some people, it feels pretty special to me. Perhaps if you were sitting next to each other you could begain by putting your head on his shoulder, then hopefully he might then put his arm around you, then comes the hug...... i have been thinking about that approach, heh. thanks. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 6, 2008 Share Posted September 6, 2008 If it was me id just hug him, he would have no choice in the matter! haha Link to comment
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