scotty1001 Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I guess I know the overall answer to this question, but figured I would post it first to get some opinions as to what I should do. Anyway, I have been married for about 2 years. She had 2 kids before we married, and then we also have one together. Anyway, I feel like there is nothing between us, I feel she just stays with me because I pay the bills. She has gotten to the point where she can be very disrespectful to me which seems to get worse and worse. Since we first got together, she quit work and stays home with the kids. She had promised going back to work after she had the baby, but its been 7 months now and she still hasn't returned to work like she promised she would. She promised she would go back to work since we purchased a house, which she wanted, because the house was more than we could afford on my income alone. We put our house up for sale, have a contract from a buyer and we are now searching for another house. We live in a city that has been growing rapidly and the housing market is really expensive, so to find something more suitable to the family I have opted to look at adjoining cities where you get more house for your money. Well, she isn't up for that all that much, says she doesn't want to move her kids and make them start somewhere new all over again. The kids are 8 yrs old, 3 years old and 7 months old. Its really hard trying to talk sensibly to her. Its usually either her way or she wont even stay in the room and listen to what you have to say. I dont claim to be a perfect husband, but I have given her a lot in life as far as support and a better father figure for her kids than what their real dad is. I guess what worries me the most is her not being able to make it if I do decide to call it quits. I know thats not my problem, 2 of her kids aren't my responsiblity, but the 3rd one is, and I wouldn't want to see him have to do without. Her Ex doesn't pay hardly anything in child support and with 3 kids that would require daycare if we divorced and she had to work, she wouldn't make enough to pay daycare and have anything to live on, and her family is very unreliable if she had to move in with them. I dont want to get wrapped up in another mortgage with someone thats not going to workout. The way she has acted over the last 3 or 4 months has really made me lose my feelings/love towards her. I guess Im just looking for other peoples opinions on this as I dont really want to turn to family right now and share my problems with them. Link to comment
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