Lost Sense of Desire

[Steve 7745]

I'm going on a hand full of dates this weekend. Two are in the air, pending those "last ditch summer activities" people dive for during early September. I don't blame the girls, summer's almost gone and this is their last chance to go to the beach, etc. The third is pretty definite.

 

I've arrived at a point where I don't know what I want anymore. I've met girls who I felt were ideal but still failed. Meeting women is no problem for me, I am not lacking in the courage to at least attempt to talk to any stranger and see if I can turn it into a phone number, a date and whatever else. But the fact remains, I feel I am somewhat lost in my sense of spirituality- I don't know where I'm going anymore.

 

How do you figure out when you're truly ready to start a new relationship and embrace it? Or do you prefer to just focus on yourself and be open to the possibility of it happening?

[blue_dahlia]

How do you figure out when you're truly ready to start a new relationship and embrace it? Or do you prefer to just focus on yourself and be open to the possibility of it happening?

 

I think you just know? Or you go on one date and test it and see how it feels? I was in Mexico once and woke up one morning and decided I was ready to date again. I put on my profile on link removed that day.

 

Othertimes, I'm know I'm not ready (like now). However, I post my profile on the dating site anyway. All I end up doing is reading emails, and participating in the forums. It's more of a way to pass the time, something to do so I don't think about when my ex is going to contact me next. I truly have no interest. It's just pure entertainment.

 

I do believe in focusing on yourself and becoming truly happy with who you are before entering a new relationship. When I'm happy, confident and independent that seems to be the time when I meet someone.

[Karmageddon]

It sounds like you are just having fun playing the field right now. When you meet someone you really click with, I'm sure you will be more open to the possibility of it happening. Right now it seems like you are meeting people, taking it in stride, having a bit of fun (hopefully no new bad date horror stories) & just kinda wondering in general where this is all going to end up.

 

If you are happy with everything else in your life, you are a step ahead of the game. People sometimes tend to come into our lives at the oddest moments, just be ready.