ajaxajax Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Hi all I have a strong shyness when asking a girl out, even though I can get on great with some. It's probably the only problem I have with girls...and that's what's stopping me from starting a romantic life. I have always thought that I don't ask because I was just afraid of rejection or, maybe, being told: "Sorry, I've already got a bf or husband." But, I have realised something else that stopped me from trying. Well, two things. First, I am not exactly sure how often or for how long I need to befriend or talk to a woman before asking her even for lunch. I keep hearing about how women get asked out only 2-3 hours after first meeting their guys...just like my sister (now engaged). Second, if I do ask a woman out, will that mean that, if she's decent and says yes, would I have to necessarily remain with her? Also, if I kept going out with her and then I find another girl who is better in general (not necessarily with looks), then how would I approach this problem without being a sleaze, a gigolo or "the bad guy"? I'm sure that if I were in that situation, I would have an interest in the second one, but still have deep feelings for the first one - I wouldn't exactly "let go" of either one of them and I would still see each woman for who SHE is. Link to comment
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