Is it good or bad when...

[Carmine]

...a girl who has shown definite signs of interest randomly brings up the fact that she broke up with her boyfriend (who I never knew existed beforehand) to you alone? Is that a way of saying "I'm available" or is it going down the path to the friend-zone?

[Caterina]

It could mean "tread carefully" or "stay away" or "come hither". You'll only know if you ask. Don't be nervous.

[i_win]

To me if a girl offers up this information it means that she might not be able to offer herself to you 100% in the emotional department. She still isn't over it. And to be really honest, whether it was information given out just to inform or to detour...it should be taken as a sign of extreme caution no matter how much she is or isn't into you.

 

I coudn't even look at women seriously for a long time after my breakup because I was still too emtionally attached to my ex.

[Carmine]

Well, we're also talking about 18-19 year olds, where you can go from one "boyfriend/girlfriend" to the next without much thought. I'm not looking for anything serious with this girl...not now at least.

 

And no, all she said was, "I just broke up with my boyfriend a few days ago...he keeps texting me and it's getting annoying. Relationships...mmm, yeah...*changes subject*"

[george237]

Should of said "Tell me about it I just broke up with 3 of my 7 gf''s and they won't leave me alone"

[Carmine]

Lol, that would've been good george.

[Caterina]

Just please don't lead her on. I had a guy friend a while back who I began to fall for. After I broke up with my bf, I tried to hook up with him. He stayed around me, worst thing in the world for me- because I fell for him even harder. It was such a miserable hell, three years of hell. If you don't want anything with her, please make it apparent.

[Carmine]

Nah, I like her...I was just responding to some posters who were essentially saying stay away, she just broke up, emotional baggage, blah blah. I'm saying that I'm not crazy about her or anything, but I like her and would like something to develop with her...and maybe sometime I will be crazy for her, but that's not on my mind now.

[i_win]

Just please don't lead her on. I had a guy friend a while back who I began to fall for. After I broke up with my bf, I tried to hook up with him. He stayed around me, worst thing in the world for me- because I fell for him even harder. It was such a miserable hell, three years of hell. If you don't want anything with her, please make it apparent.

 

I'd say most of that ownership is on your end in all fairness. You just broke up with your boyfriend and then immediately went for a new guy. I know this thread isn't about your situation, but had you been in an emotionally stable state you wouldn't have fallen so hard and may not have fallen at all.

 

And you put a lot of pressure on him in the relationship when he was perhaps just going about it casually and naturally. Your transfer of emotions made the relationship completely UNnatural.

[Caterina]

I'd say most of that ownership is on your end in all fairness. You just broke up with your boyfriend and then immediately went for a new guy. I know this thread isn't about your situation, but had you been in an emotionally stable state you wouldn't have fallen so hard and may not have fallen at all.

 

And you put a lot of pressure on him in the relationship when he was perhaps just going about it casually and naturally. Your transfer of emotions made the relationship completely UNnatural.

 

Maybe...I don't really know. But we had a three year friendship that is now over. Its been three months and I still think about him although I've begun to flirt with other men and grasp the concept that its truly over and that he's probably in bed with some other girl anyways. I'll never truly know what he was thinking. He was NEVER clear.

[ghost69]

could go either way man. only she knows why she told you that. stop analyzing everything and make some moves and find out.