Want to move away from it all

[Jim2007]

I've been thinking a lot about my life lately and ways to better myself. I have bad social anxiety to the point where I can never really connect with anybody. I somehow managed to have a g/f for 2 years but we broke up a few months ago and I fear I'll never meet anyone new. I've lived in the same area my whole life and was thinking it would be a good idea to just move away from here and go to school. Last summer I visited family in Italy and it was amazing, I'm not sure why but I didn't have any anxiety whatsoever I could just be myself and feel normal. I'm 21 and still live with my parents and obviously this doesn't fly with them but I feel it would really better me as a person. Any input on this? Is it bad to want to just run away from everything, It's so hard when you keep trying and failing because of one condition.

[SomeRandomHero]

i feel you dude i wanna move away from my problems as well becuz in the relationship i let myself go so my self esteem sucks now and i got a broken nose that didnt help my self consciousness much oh well stay strong * * * * gets bad real bad before it can get good and i tell ya brother karma or just a string of bad luck hit me hard so it should finally be going up for me i live with my parents as well im 22 if they want u out for sure get a decent paying job go to school and get a roommate if something can be worked out stay at home and save up if u can

[Lucy__lou]

Do it!

 

I moved to a new part of the world and my social anxiety was immediately cured. people may say it's running away from your problems. But if it makes you stronger and able to live more fully and grow as a person, that's hardly a bad thing now is it?

 

I don't know what it is about relocating oneself that is so liberating, but it's worked for many a person. Chances are, once you've left your hometown, the idea that you may have stayed will horrify you.

[doityourself]

I say if you want to go try Italy then go, maybe thats your calling.

 

Live life to the fullest, theres no second chances!!!!!!!!

[jtracy]

I "ran away" from my parents by getting married and moving to a distant part of the U.S.A. I think that moving to a brand new place away from everything you've known has a great deal to be said for it. It is a powerful way to start a new life, to change everything all at once. It's definitely worth trying. Having said that, I also think that eventually you need to "come home". You can't just run away from your problems, they have a way of traveling with you, uninvited. You need to solve them and get them out of the way.

 

I think, in any case, you need to move out from your parent's house. I firmly believe that it is not good for a 21 year old to be still living at home. I lived with my family for too long and have always regretted it. If you live on your own, I think that would force you to be around other people more and learn to get along with them better.

 

Don't fear that you will never meet a new girlfriend. You will. Remember not to make the mistake of focusing on all the things that went wrong with your last girlfriend. Focus on the good things instead and on what you would want in a new girlfriend, and she will show up. "Let go and let God".