Joop86au Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Hey guys, just a spur of the moment thing I decided to check to see if there where any forums on breaking up, and I am glad that I did. I especially would like to thank yellow sweater for her 'My One-Year Update: HEALED' post, it made me feel a whole lot better, step 4 is a massive thing for me at the moment, as well as the whole facebook thing Okay a brief (sortof) summary of my situation She was my first major GF, a couple of month long things before hand but thats it. We had been going out for 6 years since we where both 16. She was always the more dependent one, which I guess gave me a false sense of security in the relationship. To be honest with myself, things where a bit rocky, we where in a bit or a rut, and we argued a bit (mostly about money, Im in my final year of uni, so Im poor, and she had started working so she has money and wanted to do things with it). Anyway she went interstate for three months as part of a work training thing and one month into it, after an argument over the phone, she just breaks it off. Not only that but within about an hour she had jumped on Facebook and changed her status, anouncing to everyone we had broken up, so I didnt even get the chance to tell my mates the way I wanted to. I had people asking about the breakup before I even knew it was common knowledge! Anyway I had to go into the field the very next day for a month, and let me tell you a month with strangers, no contact with home, and the featurless Australian outback does not help you feel any better. I stopped eating, blaming a stomach virus, couldnt sleep for a few days etc etc Anyway after I came back I jumped back into as many social things with my mates as I could, and in general they where really good about things. But here comes the confusion, I met someone pritty much the first weekend I went out after I came back... It was all great for a few weeks, shes nice, funny etc etc, and even though I am not having much fun, I blamed that on the breakup, as everything I do atm isnt nearly as enjoyable as it used to be. So for several weeks I though I was better, I though little about the old relationship and tried to move on with my life. And then the EX called up, and everythings gone to s*&t again Shes giving off heaps of mixed signals, Im not sure if she wants the relationship again, or if thats just wishfull thinking on my part. Im also now doubting everything ive done over the last month since ive been back, did I go out with this other girl just because Im one of those people who NEEDS to be in a relationship? Probably, but does that make the relationship any less worth it?! Am I even ready for a relationship again?! Probably not I again admit, but to be honest its very lonely being single and Im not used to it. And then Im getting stupid thoughs about being over the hill, ive waisted so much of my life and all of the good people are in relationships now, OMG IM ONLY 22!! Whats wrong with me? The EX is coming back in a few days (havent seen her since b4 the break up) and I am hoping that the talk with at least give me some closure one way or the other, but Im also pritty sure that if there is no desire on her part its just gonna knock me back down. Shes says she wants to stay friends, which im not sure about, and then I pickup hints that maybe it was just a bit of timeout that she wanted...then why the breakup in the first place?! She also seems pritty wrapped up in making sure that not everyone back home hates her for how things turned out. Anyway enough rambling for now, Im not even sure if any of that made sense. Thanks again guys Link to comment
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