My boyfriend brought up something he wants to try, and I made fun =/

[PhilliesFan001]

Agh.

 

My boyfriend & I joke around and tease one another a lot, so sometimes it's hard to tell when he's being serious. The other day he suggested something new - not really sexual, just something he thought would be "fun" and a bit kinky.

 

But, I thought he was completely kidding, so I just laughed and teased him for it and made a big show of saying no way.

 

Now I find out he was actually serious. I feel so bad. I'm not particularly into the thing he was suggesting, but I've also got no serious problems with it. If I knew he wasn't kidding, I would have been completely receptive and reacted differently.

 

I feel like I kinda blew it. He kept assuring me that it's good he knows how I really feel, it's not something he has his heart set on, just thought it would be fun, etc. But I feel bad for just making fun of him and dismissing it.

 

Anyway it's been like 3 days and he's not brought it up since then (maybe because he's afraid of me laughing at him?) and if it makes him happy, I really want to do it, I just don't know how to bring it up. Every time I try, he just laughs and says "No, you were very clear how you felt, we're not doing that just for me."

 

Eh. Help?

[i_win]

Why not tell him you took it as joking around and that you're sorry. Then tell him that you want to do things that will make him happy that you're not crazy about just like you would hope he would do for you.

[DaBladeRoden]

What did he suggest?

[JadedStar]

If this were me i'd tell him "i laughed but i really like to try new things. Your suggestion caught me off guard but the more i think about it, i think it might be kinda cool"

 

And then wink and be cute. LOL

[JadedStar]

What did he suggest?

 

HA HA you know i wanted to ask that too!

[jengh]

HA HA you know i wanted to ask that too!

 

hahahaha, YOU being nosey? I dont believe it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

i wanted to ask too

[greensleeves]

Depending on what it is (?????), you could just surprise him and initiate it yourself one night. (without any preliminary discussion about what you're going to do).

[JadedStar]

hahahaha, YOU being nosey? I dont believe it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

i wanted to ask too

 

HEY THERE MISSY! I resemble that remark! LOL

[Clementine orange]

Well, to be honest, I can kinda see how that would provoke gales of laughter.

 

However, My ex used to wear my underwear sometimes - I thought it was uber sexy. (I'm a man, she's a woman, they were boxer briefs)

 

Not sure if would produce the same results with the genders switched though (no, I did not wear her scanty panties)

[Catdancer]

I was feeling really down one night and my bf asked what he could do to cheer me up. I jokingly said here, put on this crotchless red thong, my 4 inch stiletto heels and dance around like a stripper. Sure enough....he did. It was hilarious. I think the biggest turn on was that he did it to make me smile.