exploding head Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Im really getting tired of missing her. I just wish these feelings would go away pnce and for all. Im so tired of sadness. Why wont she either call me or leave my head for good? I seriousky have newver been this hung up on someone before. Then again, I never loved anyone as much as I loved her. It just hurts so damn bad because I miss her. Even though she hurt me, I still miss her. I miss my friend. Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Whats the background story? Link to comment
exploding head Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 together for a year, she cheated on me. known the girl since I was 16 (31 now) She wanted me as a "friend" gave me this whole line about how she couldnt imagine her life without me in it, blah blah. I said i would NEVER just be her friend. Link to comment
Kahdeksan Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Hey, I know what you're going through man... my ex cheated on me too and that was hard to take, but luckily for my own sake I forgave her since she's now gone for good! I was desperate to get her back and missed her heaps, just like everyone here, but then as I found out more about myself I started to acknowledge things as they were and that nothing could be done about them. So in effect it is getting easier for me because I put more work on not missing her than I am putting in the time and effort to miss her. Stay strong, buddy... Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I said i would NEVER just be her friend. Good. You deserve more than just a friend. Plus when you're friends, if you haven't truly healed, it just hurts too much. It's also harder to move on and near impossible to keep your heart open to meeting the right girl if your ex is in your life. I know that it's a cliche, but with time it does get easier. Just know that with each day that passes, that's another day closer to being all better (hug). Keep doing NC, stay strong and you will heal. Link to comment
exploding head Posted September 4, 2008 Author Share Posted September 4, 2008 I've been as strong as I can through the whole thing. It's wearing me out though. I cant believe how much i miss my old life with her. Trying hard to keep positive about it. I just miss everything we used to have. And Im caught in the "what am i gonna do now?" mindset. It sucks. Day after day, the same thing. Missing her. Link to comment
atelis Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 i can't imagine losing someone i have known for 15 years, especially if for a long part of that i was in a relationship wit the person. in that context, 2 months is still not enough time to heal. it may take you months, bu i'm sure you will get better in time. the pain for me has subsided after 2 weeks, but i still miss her. it's something i can't get out of my head either, no matter how busy i try to be. It's like she is permanently sitting in a corner of my brain.........just sitting there. Link to comment
julioiglesia Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 i am on the same boat. i find out she broke up with me which is already 2 months because of another guy (a low life highschool drop out oil rig worker off of gulf of mexico) we went out for 2 years in college. and i am medschool bound. seeing her settling for a low life just makes me laugh. it was a serious relationship though. she is from lousiana and went back home for the summer and i am from nyc. but i am still hurt and i told her not to contact me. and that's when the nc begun so far 2 weeks. u can find better trust me. cheaters will one day regret what they are doing. sooner or later. what comes around will go around Link to comment
nic2463 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 i am on the same boat. i find out she broke up with me which is already 2 months because of another guy (a low life highschool drop out oil rig worker off of gulf of mexico) we went out for 2 years in college. and i am medschool bound. seeing her settling for a low life just makes me laugh. it was a serious relationship though. she is from lousiana and went back home for the summer and i am from nyc. but i am still hurt and i told her not to contact me. and that's when the nc begun so far 2 weeks. u can find better trust me. cheaters will one day regret what they are doing. sooner or later. what comes around will go around Many people on here say "what comes around goes around" is a revenge,bitter and twisted saying but for me its so true,wasting 6 months suffering after being dumped by someone not worth the sweat off my forhead makes you realise its true! Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Exploding, on the big scale of things it hasnt been that long since the break up so it still going to be hard for you, give yourself a break, you dont have to be able to just wake up one day and suddenly you dont miss her, for now your doing just fine. You WILL get there i promise x Link to comment
ugly-side Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 I've been as strong as I can through the whole thing. It's wearing me out though. I cant believe how much i miss my old life with her. Trying hard to keep positive about it. I just miss everything we used to have. And I'm caught in the "what am i gonna do now?" mindset. It sucks. Day after day, the same thing. Missing her. You probably didn't see this coming, but... You are weak, like I am, you put too much of yourself into something, and you get hurt. Change your thinking, on a fundamental level. Sorry ladies, but girls are just evil. They may not mean you harm, but they are survivors, favoring security and money over Anything else. It was just a matter of time, for you, and me, and all the other chumps out there. Pull your head out of your a$$ bro, it's done... She will never be what you want her to be. The nicer you are, the more they take advantage. Sum up up all of your feelings as chemical responses and conclude that this is a fleeting feeling, because you haven't met someone else that "does it" for you like she did. Maybe no one will, and that's why WE are all in hell. Sorry for my bluntness, but it is an armor I have created to protect me, maybe you should develop yours too. Link to comment
exploding head Posted September 5, 2008 Author Share Posted September 5, 2008 um, ok... so what are you doing to make YOUR situation better, pal? Trust me, I've already pretty much become an a**hole around women. Funny how much attention you get... Link to comment
Caterina Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 um, ok... so what are you doing to make YOUR situation better, pal? Trust me, I've already pretty much become an a**hole around women. Funny how much attention you get... You might be initially attractive for someone like me, but after I'm in a relationship with them a while, it ends. Link to comment
saturnreturn Posted September 5, 2008 Share Posted September 5, 2008 Im really getting tired of missing her. I just wish these feelings would go away pnce and for all. Im so tired of sadness. Why wont she either call me or leave my head for good? I seriousky have newver been this hung up on someone before. Then again, I never loved anyone as much as I loved her. It just hurts so damn bad because I miss her. Even though she hurt me, I still miss her. I miss my friend. Of course you miss her. You have known her for so many years. She was your friend and your lover. She misses you too, I'm sure. Two months is not a long time. Give yourself a break. Make a list of things that you can do while you are healing to nurture yourself and occupy your time. I don't think our feelings of grief go away once and for all ... but time diffuses them and eventually we allow ourselves to focus outward instead of obsessing over the loss. I'm just beginning to think about doing this and it's been four long months since my four-year relatinship broke up. You'll get there. Don't put yourself on a schedule. Take care. Link to comment
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