babii doll Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 So my bf and I have been dating for 8 months now. in the beginning everything was great considering we live an hour apart we managed to find time for eachother. he's my first serious boyfriend so im not really used to relationships..im 24 and he's 23. in the very beginning even before i met him ive always had a high sex drive. i was under the impression he did too, our sex life was consistent in the beginning. after 4 months of dating everything just stopped, i think it was partially my fault for saying in a heated argument that he was bad in bed. now i know i was wrong for saying it, i apologized later. but ever since then we have not had sex, we've never even spent a night together and its been 8 months now. whenever i try to plan a weekend getaway or just a night together something always comes up on HIS end. im generally understanding because he does take care of his family and is busy with work alot of the time, but not ALL the time. we've recently had a talk about the lack of sex and he blurted out that it wasnt important to him. i was surprised by that, being that he knew from the beginning that im pretty sexual, he also admitted that hes scared to have sex with me after what i said about him being bad in bed. i try to assure him he isnt but it doesnt register for him and now i feel like im silently suffering in the process. sex isnt everything but i think for me its definitely important to be intimate with the person im with, its something that i need to function in a relationship. its been 4 months since we've done anything and i've even thought about cheating, i would never actually do it but its definitely frustrating to be rejected the way i have during half of the relationship. he makes me feel bad for wanting sex now and says thats all i think about which isnt true. i dont know if this is a deal breaker or not, but the simple fact that we havent even spent time away together is bothering me big time. im not sure how to proceed with this, i do love the guy but i dont want to stay in a sexless relationship for the rest of my life. what would you do if you were in my shoes? Link to comment
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