jmantra Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Ladies: What are your thoughts on a guy making you dinner instead of buying you dinner? I am not trying to be cheap or anything I've just heard that women find that to be a bit of a romantic gesture? I am not sure if that would be appropriate for a first date though Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 First date I always prefer to be out somewhere, I dont know why. But I think you should take her out for the first date. Offer to cook for the second if it goes well. Cooking at homes a bit more intimate and personal. Link to comment
purpleduckie Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 First date I always prefer to be out somewhere, I dont know why. But I think you should take her out for the first date. Offer to cook for the second if it goes well. Cooking at homes a bit more intimate and personal. i agree with this. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I agree. Don't do it on a first date unless you really really know the gal well. I don't think many women are comfortable going to a guy's house on those first few get to know each other dates. First the safety thing, and secondly she might fear he wants her in his pad to put the moves on her. Once you know a girl and you are dating it is a lovely gesture. Link to comment
Rose21 Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Well, ofcourse I love going out to a nice dinner. Although my boyfriend has spent ALOT of money taking me out and is now on a strict budget with college, so I certaintly wouldn't mind him making me dinner. He can cook. Lol I however can't. forget what they say about women being good at cooking and cleaning, because I'm awful at cooking (I burnt ramen noodles once, and water, and the pan...I can make macaroni and quesadilas=) lol) And I'm just average at cleaning. Wont do it unless my mom gets onto me or it needs to be done. So lol, Id be satisfied with both=) Link to comment
Seraphim Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Yeah, being to a guy's house the first date would freak me out. Link to comment
_Asti_ Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I agree. First date, I think its a bit much, especially like Blue said, I find it very personal and intimate and I would be very uncomfortable if a guy cooked for me on a first date. Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Noooooooooo, no cooking dinner on a first date. Yikes. I'm not going to go your house on a first date. I probably wouldn't go to your house on a second date. But, cooking dinner for us in general, that's fantastic Link to comment
MorrowJ Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 If the guy makes a mean dinner, why not make an exception? Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 If the guy makes a mean dinner, why not make an exception? Because I don't feel comfortable going to a man's house on a first date. I don't care if it's a five-star ten-course dinner. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 It's romantic once you've established a bit of comfort with each other, and are clearly digging on each other. First date, second date, though I agree with the others. It's a matter of comfort to be out in public and also safety. I think first dates should always be public with other people around for the majority of it. Keeps everything above board and you get an actual chance to learn about each other as people first, romantic/sexy second. lol. Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I think cooking dinner for a date should wait until you know each other better so that you have a better feel for the other person's food preferences and food aversions or food allergies. Link to comment
redhearts Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I had an authentic homemade italian meal made by an italian at his house 1st time meeting! But yeh for first date no, but in general its a lot better than eating out. Eating out tends to be a bit more unhealthy. Look at it this way, what if shes allergic to something, or a vegetarian or a vegan or really doesn't like certain things etc, it is better to wait till you know them!=] Link to comment
MorrowJ Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 Because I don't feel comfortable going to a man's house on a first date. I don't care if it's a five-star ten-course dinner. I was only joking, but I see what you mean. They say that cooking is the way to a man's heart, but I don't know if the same can be said vice versa. Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 I was only joking, but I see what you mean. They say that cooking is the way to a man's heart, but I don't know if the same can be said vice versa. I think what the ladies are saying, myself included, is that a first date you don't know the guy very well so his cooking skills are moot at this point. SHe might feel he either wants to get her in his crib to make the moves or she might be concerned for safety. When you don't know someone its a bit crazy to be alone in their house on first meet. This doesn't mean we don't think a guy cooking dinner isn't romantic or very nice. My SO cooked for us on many dates and i loved it. But that was after we got to know each other a bit better. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 It's not great for the first date to cook dinner at home, but if you LEAVE the house (ie. picnic) that is very well received. Unless you have a super-high maintenance date, either dinner out or dinner in would be appreciated. Link to comment
Alezia Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 I would definetly not go to his house (unless he was a friend or good acquaintance prior to the asking) on the first three dates. I don't care how impressive your skills are. Not only is it weird because of the security and sexual aspect but it's also a lot harder to make an exit if the date doesn't go well. I might not mind a picnic on a 2nd or 3rd date though if you really insist on cooking for someone you don't know well. Link to comment
Crush85 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Ladies: What are your thoughts on a guy making you dinner instead of buying you dinner? I am not trying to be cheap or anything I've just heard that women find that to be a bit of a romantic gesture? I am not sure if that would be appropriate for a first date though I wouldn't do it for a 1st date. Maybe a 2nd or 3rd, but not a 1st date. Link to comment
Alezia Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 ... No, that would be both cheap and disrespectful. She may not even be comfy coming to your house for dinner for the first date. I love for my bf to cook for me (or vice versa) IF he is my bf. Not the first few dates. I would honestly not see it as cheap and disrespectful, just not in good taste for a first date due to the above mentioned reasons. Money can seriously add up when you incorporate a bottle of wine, nice fresh bread or fresh pasta and cheese from the market etc... ( a well thought meal) If he's serving me hot dogs or Kraft Dinner, that would be cheap yes. Maybe it's because I would only eat this kind of stuff very occasionally as I find it's the crummiest "food" (if you can even call it food). You want to feed the ones you care about in a healthy manner in my opinion. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 freaky first date man. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted September 4, 2008 Share Posted September 4, 2008 Ladies: What are your thoughts on a guy making you dinner instead of buying you dinner? I am not trying to be cheap or anything I've just heard that women find that to be a bit of a romantic gesture? I am not sure if that would be appropriate for a first date though I think it's a lot more personal and thoughtful when a guy cooks for me, but I agree that first date I want to be out somewhere. I'd save that for more like something of a third date. Link to comment
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