should i write my ex the letter....and see what the future holds or move on?

[younique21]

I recently just broke up with my bf of two years in may. I only did it because i needed some time because of the way things were going in our relationship and the things he would say to me. He did try to work things out with me but i just let him know that it couldnt be at that moment. I began going out only because i just wanted to enjoy being with my friends because it was something i missed. In June he began being very rude... i guess because i wouldnt work things out. He was only rude on the phone but when i would see him he would act different. By July i was tired of playing games and i realized that this is the person that i truly wanted to be with. He did mention that he met someone but i just shrugged it off. I wrote him this long letter expressing how i felt...from wanting to marry him to even having kids with him. From this point we began to get back on good terms communicating everyday for the next month and a half. (yes we were still having sex) He told me he loved me everyday and still continues to tell me to this day. Telling me i was his everything and that i was all he had, and the only person that he could trust. However I just couldnt understand why we werent back together. So i finally decided to ask him and i found that him and the person he had met were passed the talking phase (Girlfriend). He also mentioned that at this time he couldnt be with me and that he still wants me his life cause he doesnt know what the future may hold for us. Yes i was deeply hurt but i told myself that i love him with all my heart and i still wanted to be a part of his life....however i knew that being his friend would hurt because I knew he would put me second. Because i was hurt i think i became jealous and needy and my actions have somewhat pushed him away, because he doesnt communicate with me as much or the same. Everyone around me just told me to leave him alone and make him miss me....and that the only reason he was still doing this is because he knows he could have a gf and still have me always be there for him. I just dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart.....i just cant be second ....but i also feel afraid to leave him alone because i still want to have a part of him.I know that if the future allows us to be together again i would love that more than anything, but i dont want to push him away either. I do want to write him another letter just letting him no i wish him well and that i do want to be a part of his life or should i just tell him ...Someone please give me advice on what to do.

[drona9999]

i just cant be second ....

 

remember this. make it a point to remember this. you have only answered urself.

[anggrace]

His actions don't match his words. He's telling you that you are all he has, he loves you all while sleeping with you, THEN he goes back to this other girl. Why would he do that if he truly cared about you. He's being selfish, not loving. And what about the other girl? He's being sneaky and doing this behind her back? He doesn't sound trustworthy to me. I wouldn't write a letter expressing your love. Id write a letter expressing how you won't be walked on anymore.

[kuhl282000]

I knew he would put me second. Because i was hurt i think i became jealous and needy and my actions have somewhat pushed him away, because he doesnt communicate with me as much or the same. Everyone around me just told me to leave him alone and make him miss me....and that the only reason he was still doing this is because he knows he could have a gf and still have me always be there for him. I just dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart.....i just cant be second ...

 

 

And right now you are second ....he is hedging his bets........not a good situation for you.......I would not wait for this guy .......he could have dumped the other girl .....he choose not to .......good deal for him .....really bed deal for you

 

No one wants to be #2 ......