Scared to go NC.

[Band_Nerd]

I've been thinking about it for a few days now, but I haven't gotten the guts to do it yet. I know people have told me it's the best thing I could do...and I want to, but I'm just scared for some reason.

[SapphireNoir10]

Its because its like the final cut to the seperation. Its them out of your life for good. It is the best think I ever did. Not seeing or hearing from me helped me concentrate on me and know he didnt treat me well.

[TBE_1989]

I've been thinking about it for a few days now, but I haven't gotten the guts to do it yet. I know people have told me it's the best thing I could do...and I want to, but I'm just scared for some reason.

 

Which is more scary?

 

1) the possibility of letting go, yes, going through a bit of pain, but ultimately moving on in the healthiest way possible, without denial, setbacks or resentment?

 

or

 

2) Hearing how your ex is doing, what he's doing, what he's saying, how he's feeling, who he's seeing, where he's going, who he likes, who he's sleeping with etc etc etc etc etc?

 

Everyone wants to know how their ex is doing at some stage in a breakup. It's inevitable. But in the long run, this is disastrous. option two may seem appealing to you right now if you're intensely hurting but, the longer you continue to contact him and see him, the longer it will take to get over him. FACT. You're just going to hurt yourself, honey,if you continue contact with him.

 

NC IS scary, and it IS tough, don't get me wrong. It can be very frustrating. But it's less scary and less tough and less frustrating than waking up every morning wondering what the day will bring in terms of hearing from your ex. It's less scary, less tough, and less frustrating than putting your moods and emotions at the mercy of what your ex is doing or saying. It's less scary, less tough, and less frustrating than living your life dependent on a relationship that isn't there.

 

try NC. You'll be pleasantly surprised at how you'll feel within even a few days of having no contact with your ex.

[drona9999]

I've been thinking about it for a few days now, but I haven't gotten the guts to do it yet. I know people have told me it's the best thing I could do...and I want to, but I'm just scared for some reason.

 

 

Its the best thing i ever did. It wasnt easy. And i broke my NC many time. But its been months.. and im going strong. Though there are problems in my life, i have my self respect back. And that what matters. Dont be scared. Just take good care of yourself. All the best.

[Hollyj]

Getting the self respect back is the BIG thing! I feel so much better, and feel that I am back to the person I was before I met him. Good to have myself back, I will never allow that to happen again!!!!!

[ugly-side]

I told my family and close friends about the idea of NC, so they actually helped me in ways I never thought. They helped remind me, called me more. My mom even told her to stop trying to contact me! I'm closer to my family now than ever before. You may have a different family structure than mine, but there are people in your life that can help. NC seems so dramatic, but I tried to reconcile, and after breaking NC, I can say it was almost as bad as the split itself. Seeing her, hearing her, learning something new about her (bad news mostly), it was not worth it. If it makes you feel better, I saw my ex last Monday after breaking NC, I'm still trying to get over it. It was a healing wound that was ripped open again. I actually feel more sick to my stomach than before, so you may actually get worse emotionally and physically if you stay in contact with him. My two cents anyway?