aldridal Posted September 3, 2008 Share Posted September 3, 2008 So, obviously I'm new here, so I'll share my story. I'm 20, but have been dating the same girl for 5.5 years (so you do the math). We've been happy for most of the time, other than a few minor arguments. Two years ago, when we went to college, things happened on her end (a guy kissed her, she got confused, we broke up). It was a difficult 4 weeks, but after I finally got the nerve to stop calling her, she called me back professing her love for me. Two years later, I'm in a similar situation. Last week, (I guess it's been a week and a half), she started hanging out with a "friend" for long hours. At first, it was just hanging out at his place, and I was cool with it, because she's had lots of friends, and I thought it was innocent. But after a few days, she started spending more and more time with him, and didn't want to feel pressured into telling me when she was going to be back. She told me I was getting clingy, and that she wanted the freedom to be able to come home whenever she wanted. So, I decided to give us some space over the weekend, and went home to stay with my parents. I hadn't stayed at their place in quite a while, so I thought it would be nice to catch up with them anyways. Well, as it turns out, when I was gone, she had him over, and they ended up "dozing" on the fouton together, which they just so happened to turn into a bed. She tried to reassure me that nothing was going on, and that they slept under different blankets, etc... Obviously, I was not going to put up with that. So, I confronted her the night after, and we talked for a long time. It obviously got emotional, and we discussed how we might be growing apart. So, I spent the night at my parents' again, and as it turns out, they "dozed" on the fouton again. So, I called her and asked for my stuff back, and gave her her stuff. Funny thing is, right now, I don't mind talking to her. I don't mind talking to her, because I feel that I'm OK with being friends and no longer romantically involved. It feels weird to understand that we will not be together anymore, and be OK with it. It's strange to know that I would never be able to go back to her, because she knowingly betrayed my trust, and was OK with it. So, my question is this (and sorry for the long winded post), is this normal? I mean, will it hit me hard later, and should I be prepared for that? Or should I accept that maybe we weren't right for eachother, even though we had been dating all the way back since we were Freshmen in High School (now are Juniors in College). Link to comment
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