My Advice Posted September 2, 2008 Share Posted September 2, 2008 Okay, I just started dating and asking for numbers again after several years of not having sex. I was in a relationship with a wonderful woman for five years (bad timing or I'd still be with her) and then later when i was single fell for a woman who was bad for me (she put me in the friends zone, then flipped out when I gave up trying to get her, and then killed herself). Most recent girl I was interested in ain't happening right now -- maybe someday but not now-- so I am NCing her and focusing on other girls. So I am going to just do the 'aloof' dating thing while going to grad school. I just hit on this girl I have known a couple years who i am not 'too' close to.' She always knew I was attracted to her and seemed somewhat interested but didn't wanna date at the time. I flirted like mad with her today, told her hot cute she was and how I am gonna persuade her to go out on a date with me, and she seemed to be eating it up and grinning like mad, but I didn't outright ask her out cuz there were too many mutual friends around. But I emailed her afterward. I know it is better to ask her in person but there was no place to isolate and I like thinking out what I want to say. Will an e mail be a bad impression? I have just recovered from alot of crap so I am new to some of the smaller points of dating even if I get the general picture really well. This is my e mail. Title: you know I was serious. ----Wanted to bring this up in person but too many people around and it would make it ackward. You know I was serious. (not about the marriage part haha). I am very attracted to you. You're really cute (I LOVE your crooked smile, slavic looks, silky hair, and sexy accent) and your personality rocks. Your humor is alot like mine, you make me laugh when I am down, and you are mature for your age. I actually hate giving compliments to girls cuz it is far less effective than games (which I am too tired for at this point) but regardless of your answer, your cool so it makes me feel good tweaking your ego. I am not looking to jump into anything and have been 'just dating', but I am on my way to being financially secure and stable (I am working hard to get into lawschool and do well in this masters program), I don't cheat. I'm honest to a fault, and let's face it, I am very good looking and ummm brilliant. You should let me take you out to dinner sometime. I gurantee I will make a better date than "rob or don or whatever their names are..." I have been dating and getting alot of numbers lately but I can't pass up a positive opportunity when I see it. Think about it. We could have a fun time hanging out together. Funny thing, I am very attracted to her. She makes me laugh and has a gorgeous russian accent, plus I love jewish girls for some reason. And yet I feel very aloof. For me, this question is to learn about dating since what I sent can't be undone anyway, and I feel good having sent it regardless. Those who comment on the egotistical remarks, we have a rapport already so that wont bother her plus she tends to dig my cocky remarks. Link to comment
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